Blog Entries by Brian and Darcy

Marsha from Porn to Purity has been through the ups and downs of this addiction as a wife. She is right to the point and very open about what she has been through. We hope that you can get something really good from this blog. Brian  Darcy

When I was pregnant with both my boys, my already acute since of smell was magnified by 1000.  I could...

Here is a blog from one of our friends at porntopurity.com  Jeff and Marsha are another couple who have been down the path of recovery.  They now share their lives with others to let others know thay are not alone in this battle.

The most frequent question I am asked by wives is “Is there hope for my marriage?”  My answer is always “yes”...

Over time porn took the place of so many things in my life.  I had become blind to all the things around me because I had started to believe the lies it was telling me.

Lies like:
"What's a little porn going to do to you?  Not like it could hurt any one."
Yep; I fell for that one hook, line, and sinker.  The fact of the matter was that it was...

Feeling like you are not heard, or misunderstood, is one of the fastest paths to loneliness. When we don’t believe that another person really knows or understands our heart, we can get lost in a crowd, feel all alone. Many men who struggle sexually will know exactly what I am talking about; this may be his daily experience. Tragically, it is...

There is a difference between a “relapse” and a “slip”.

“relapse” –  when you are back to living the lifestyle of the addiction

“slip” –  when you act out but return to recovery relatively quickly

A slip may be one time or a “binge” for a number of days, but it results in a return to recovery and openness about the slip. In a relapse, the addict...

I heard this song from Switchfoot for the first time the other day.  I am not able to write the most amazing words and often struggle when it comes to these blogs.  But Switchfoot nailed how I felt inside and the battle that took place so often with me, God, and porn.  I know I look back at this now and realize I should have stood up and not...

Not to long ago Darcy and I had a chance to take a trip to California without the kids.  This gave us some time to talk and reflect a bit about what we had been through and how things are going now.  One topic that we talked about was a question people have asked more lately.

The questions was "Did you love Darcy when you were addicted to...

“Father we pray that this sin would no longer exist and that you would remove it from our lives.  We ask that the temptations and thoughts disappear and that our marriage be restored the way it should be.  We pray this in you your sons name; Amen"

As a couple healing from the scars of sexual addiction we have prayed many times for God to remove...

So here we are; this week on December 2nd it will be 4 years of sobriety for me.  Darcy and I are very excited about this milestone in our healing.  We look back and see good times, bad times, and some very uncomfortable times as well.

One of the things that we often look back at is this blog for the site.  So many times we have sat at the...

So here you are heading downtown to an appointment minding your own business and you turn onto the next street. You look up and you notice that cars are driving on the wrong side of the road and right at you.  Then your head clears up for a quick second and you realize that you are heading down a one way road and you are headed in the wrong...