Blog Entries by Brian and Darcy

Here is a copy of a blog once again from our friends at Porn to Purity. Jeff & Marsha have an amazing heart for other couples who are faced with this struggle in their relationship. It is Darcy and my prayer that you will be able to take something from this blog away with you that will help.

Marsha and I are sharing insights from the Pure...

People ask often “how can my viewing of porn affect others around me.  I watch it alone; it’s just me and the porn this can not possibly affect others.”  However your actions and habits affect everyone around and your relationship with them.  We hope that with each section we can bring some light to each area and how it affects you and others in...

As a couple how do you work through recovery for both you and your spouse? The answer is; one day at a time. During the next two weeks Darcy and I will talk about how both of us got through our recovery and healing one day at a time. The first week Brian will hit on how he did it this way.

When we first started our healing as a couple I wanted...

You know not a lot of people are not willing to talk about their sexual relationship and heaven forbid if you talk about sex in church.  Now don't get me wrong I have seen much improvement in the church taking on this subject but, it is still not enough not even close.

Brian and I have talked about this before with people, couples, and with each...

Marsha from Porn to Purity has been through the ups and downs of this addiction as a wife. She is right to the point and very open about what she has been through. We hope that you can get something really good from this blog. Brian  Darcy

When I was pregnant with both my boys, my already acute since of smell was magnified by 1000.  I could...

Here is a blog from one of our friends at porntopurity.com  Jeff and Marsha are another couple who have been down the path of recovery.  They now share their lives with others to let others know thay are not alone in this battle.

The most frequent question I am asked by wives is “Is there hope for my marriage?”  My answer is always “yes”...

Over time porn took the place of so many things in my life.  I had become blind to all the things around me because I had started to believe the lies it was telling me.

Lies like:
"What's a little porn going to do to you?  Not like it could hurt any one."
Yep; I fell for that one hook, line, and sinker.  The fact of the matter was that it was...

Feeling like you are not heard, or misunderstood, is one of the fastest paths to loneliness. When we don’t believe that another person really knows or understands our heart, we can get lost in a crowd, feel all alone. Many men who struggle sexually will know exactly what I am talking about; this may be his daily experience. Tragically, it is...

There is a difference between a “relapse” and a “slip”.

“relapse” –  when you are back to living the lifestyle of the addiction

“slip” –  when you act out but return to recovery relatively quickly

A slip may be one time or a “binge” for a number of days, but it results in a return to recovery and openness about the slip. In a relapse, the addict...

I heard this song from Switchfoot for the first time the other day.  I am not able to write the most amazing words and often struggle when it comes to these blogs.  But Switchfoot nailed how I felt inside and the battle that took place so often with me, God, and porn.  I know I look back at this now and realize I should have stood up and not...