Blog Entries by Michelle

I remember what it felt like to always try to prevent my husband's next fall, slip or dive into the cycle of porn addiction.   It was a miserable way to live- constantly trying to make sure all the externals were in place to prevent the next mishap.   I didn't want to do things outside of the home if I knew that meant leaving him alone to...

I think this has to be one of the hardest things for the wife of an addict.  We are misunderstood from all sides.  Our husband's don't get (usually) why this causes such a deep inner sickness in the depths of our heart and our soul.   Our church (if they even are willing to get involved) wants to try every approach but how the Bible tells the...

Q: My husband has been addicted to porn for years and is trying to walk with the Lord, but refuses to get help. I have prayed and fasted, is our next step confrontation from our pastors?

A. I suspect that your husband is still addicted to pornography partly because he refuses to get help. If he is just starting to work at overcoming he must...

There were so many ‘impossible challenges’ written in scripture.  When I think of what Jesus did at the wedding in Cana when the hosts ran out of wine. Jesus mother had faith that He could do something to remedy this.  He did.  He turned water into wine. (John 2)

How about the fisherman who had been out fishing all night long without a catch...

I originally wrote the following blog in 2008.  Recently I have gone back and reread so many of my older blogs just to compare then and now.  This one is a goodie if I am allowed to critique my own blogs.  Ha!

Anyway- I will debut a new blog on April 19, 2010 after taking eight months off.  So much has happened in the last eight months as the...

Porn is a ccounterfeit.  It is a cheap substitute for the real deal yet many men (and women) fall for it time and time again.  Many women try to do the "pay back" when they catch their man cheating.  Guess what though? ...that is a counterfeit too.

I was on the Internet today and found this poem.  It is quite depressing, but it is a reality for...

I have found for me that the key to this is forgiveness and mind renewal.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the offense didn’t happen; it means you are choosing to release the offender from the debt owed to you.

Forgiveness really isn’t for the offender as much as it is for us.  When we choose to forgive an offender; an un-repentant offender...

Like Abraham, may I not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but let me be strengthened in my faith and give glory to God, being fully persuaded that God is able to do what He has promised.  (Romans 4:20-21)

May I rejoice in my tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and...

When our husband's look elsewhere, usually we feel like we are not enough. 

When a husband takes a second or third glance at women in public, looks intently at women on magazine covers, views pornography, checks out dating sites, and or has an extramarital affair we are left feeling like we just don't measure up and sadly more often...

This journey began just over 7 years ago.  To some that is still the honeymoon period- to us it has been a long and very windy road.   A lot of the journey documented in journals, late night phone calls and yes even these blogs.  

I knew 6 years ago that the Lord said He would heal my husband- deliver him from his heart of stone and give him...