Blog Entries by Nicole

I saw these stats on infidelity and thought they were interesting. Sadly, I thought that some of them looked a little low (see link below). 

The section on why people have affairs really struck me. If these studies are accurate, it appears that men have affairs for physical reasons, whereas women have them for more emotional, intimacy-related...

Here's a question that I got in my email inbox recently. I thought it was a good question so I thought I would delete the personal content and repost the question and some of my answer here:

I've read bits and piece of your story and am wondering how you handle hearing details of your husband's addiction. Every time he tells me things I feel...

I recently had two separate conversations with two different friends about confession and accountability. Both conversations centered around how difficult it is to establish relationships of true accountability. Finding someone that you can confess to requires that there is mutual trust, both parties are willing to be vulnerable, and that there...

This has been on my heart for a few weeks:

Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:12,13

Recently a friend came to the end of...

I posted this a while ago but recently the question of accountability has made it's way into a few comments and a lot of emails. So, I figured it might be a good time to post this one again.

Before you read it I should note that these is no set game plan for accountability. This is what has worked for me. A good friend of mine is her husband's...

I was five months pregnant when I discovered that my husband was hiding a secret addiction to pornography. Many women assume that their husband's relationship with porn has something to do with the way that they look. This was especially true for me. It was impossible for me to compete with the models featured in adult videos and magazines....

J. D. Salinger’s The Catcher in the Rye is one of the greatest American novels of all time. Holden, the teenage character at the heart of this story, is struggling with life, and change, and people, and growing up. In the book he describes this dream to his little sister, Phoebe.

I keep picturing all these little kids playing some game in...

I saw this question posted on our site today:

Do you think porn has affected the people around you?

And all the wives shout: YES!

My husband's addiction has certainly affected me and our entire family. It has affected our marriage, our finances, and our relationships with family members and friends. And it has changed me. At first...

I love the first two chapters of Genesis. Who doesn't like new things, fresh starts, or new beginnings? In these two chapters God creates everything and sets it all on its course the way it should be. The way it was created to be. The way it was intended to be. That includes men and women. There is something so intimate about the creation of...