Struggling

For quite a while now I have been struggling with porn. At first it was only minor, and on the occasion and i thought little of it because so many people are into it. However now i see how much of control it has gained over me because i cant stop. This is really killing me inside and i absolutely hate it. I prayed to god before to help me find someone to love in real life so that i wont need this bit of dirty pleasure and can experience real love. He has now blessed me with someone but my troubles still arent over and ive failed Him miserably. So now i fight daily with this dirty desire in order to hopefully overcome it for the girl He has blessed me with ( who is a devout christian and also doesnt know of my sin =( ) but moreover for God and His son of whom without i would be nothing.

If there is any more advice that can be given please help me. I want this to end as soon as possible. Sin hurts jesus everytime its committed and im sick of kicking my savior in the side.

thankyou

M Fuller wrote on July 23rd 08 at 01:13PM

Tthink about the pain and hurt if your love one finds out. Mind did and it hurts more than you can imagine

Jim wrote on July 23rd 08 at 03:29PM

Brother,

You are not alone in your struggle. God loves you, and will not abandon you during your struggle. Pray every day. Ask for forgiveness. Keep going to the cross. You will prevail, through Christ.

Jon wrote on July 24th 08 at 12:46AM

yeah think about your girlfriend i would say don't tell her but on the other hand you should so she can help but its not my decision. And I was in the same boat until I installed a filter (but I'm still struggling) so try a filter and keep praying and read James5:13-20 and 1John 1:9 and good luck if you decide to tell her

Krista wrote on July 26th 08 at 03:32PM

Speaking as a girl, I would advise you to find a way to tell your girlfriend that you're struggling with this. Obviously I don't know how she'll react. Some Christian girls wouldn't want to be with a guy who looks at porn, while other Christian girls would continue dating you and pray for you. Either way, she deserves for you to tell her the truth. Otherwise, what happens if you get close to her and then she ends up finding out herself? That would totally destory your relationship cuz she wouldn't trust you anymore. If you want her to trust you, you need to start by being honest with her now.