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WOW, that is awesome my wife and I were just talking about this on Saturday. I had to confide in my wife that when we are intimate (not just sex but the entire expression that sex entails) it is MUCH MUCH easier for me to keep my thoughts captive.

This was not a easy conversation though, as my wife took this to mean that I am demanding more sex, or that she is not sexy enough for me to not want to wander.

We talked for about an hour, and we both came to understand the importance of sex in our marriage. With all the business of life, and such it often becomes the thing that we just push off to the weekend, and then even we are too busy. We have gone weeks without it, and we both feel the effects.

GOD has blessed me with a loving and understanding wife that knows she is a wonderful and beautiful women. She understands that she is the only woman that I desire in my heart. My wife is also not nieve and knows that men are visual, and with summer hear there is a LOT of visual out there. My wife strives hard to help me in every aspect of my life to keep me pure from sexual sin, so SATAN does not have a foothold.

We use services like XXXchurch website, X3 watch (MAC), and Safe-Eyes to help me on the computer. We use our marriage and healthy sexual attraction and action to help also.

I can say with a 100% assurance that when my wife and I are intimate on a regular basis (1-2X a week) then my ability to remain pure is 1000% enhanced. I do not leer, think, or fantasize in anyway about other women. I find myself even desiring more to turn the channel to even the soft stuff on TV.

It is truly a blessing the way that GOD has designed intimacy (which sex is part of) to be a shield against the devil. When GOD said he is gives us all the tools to defeat the evil one, I never thought SEX would be a tool. GO GOD!

Abstinence for me has been amazing. I am not married, but staying pure in my relationships with the opposite sex has gotten me so close to God. I have been down the dark dark road of sexual sin in relationships and pornography. It's filthy. You feel awful. But you just can't get away. My relationships with girlfriends became more and more about sex. It became gripping, even depressing, not being able to refrain from sexual sin. But I kept coming back for more of God's forgiveness. I've been pure in my relationships for almost a year now. Praise God. The more you seek Him, the more you will find Him. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. God requires all of us. So my sexuality is definitely a part of me. That is harder for me to give to God than my money! But it feels great when I do.

As a single man who has been abstaining from sexual sin for a couple months now I would say that indulging in sexual sin is rather selfish and abstaining would be freedom. It brings you closer to God but it also just makes you a better person.

I AM A SINGLE MATURE MALE WHO THE LORD HAS NOT GRANTED A WIFE YET. I was lead to belive that i was a homosexual for most of my teens and adult life. I came to know the lord at the age of 23 and dedicated my life to him from then on. I was never attracted to pornography until i started not prayng or readingthe bible as christian man should. This was a terrible mistake. The moment I got a computer I was hooked to homosexual pornography instantly. It was devastating and almost destroyed me. I was able to speak to my pastor and come clean to him asking him for help. I was blessed to have found help then. But if you dont have a pastor to speak to find a trusted friend and speak to him, you will be amased of the responce of love that you will receive. With God strengh and mercy I was able to walk away. I whrite thise for the men who are single and strugoul. dont be embarrased or feel ashamed of other men in the church they all have stuff in their life who are not able to share once your open up you see all the love and help you guys will recive. keep your life centerd in God love and wait for that special woman in your life.

I am a single man in a dating relationship on its way to marriage. I have seen how my abstinence and willingness to fight hidden sexual sin in my own life has proved fruitful and incredibly helpful as I begin taking steps preparing for engagement. While I have by no means been perfect in my walk of purity, God has helped me build boundaries that when crossed (on the rare occasion) are still far enough back to maintain my sexual integrity. This has allowed me to be a strong and humble leader in my relationship and is making the transition from dating towards marriage a true blessing.

Hello,
I am a wife who, a few months ago, discovered that her husband had/s a porn addiction problem. (I've already posted my confession)
But, I wanted to tell David "thank-you" for the last paragraph of his entry. It just blew me away. I never thought of intamacy/sex as a weapon to defeat Saitin's temptations. I was just stunned; but it made perfect sense to me. Thank you for your perspective, it really helped me.

My wife delights in my body even with the extra pounds. I can't tell you how incredible it is for me that she still longs to be with me even though I'm less of a stud than I once was. The way she values me goes along way in helping me feel secure about myself. Secure enought that I don't need the garbage I once thought I needed 8 years ago. I only hope to love her the way she loves me. My wife owns Faith Hill's song, "I love the way you love me!"

Sex with my wife is better every day - after 23 years of marriage. I am amazed that God was able to create us so that sex doesn't get boring - the more we do it together, the more we enjoy it and the more we want it!

I am happily married for over 18 years, and my bride and I are actually giving a telk on marriage at a youth conference this weekend...but here is my quote...

Regrettably, I was involved in a couple of sexual relationships as a teenager, but thanks be to God I heard a clear message of chastity when I was 19 years old, and chose from that point forward to wait...though not easy, it was worth it, because I learned how to love again, and realized what a gift I am, what a gift my bride is, and what a gift our intimacy is.

Though there was certainly some pleasure in the unchaste relationships prior to marriage, I would consider that to be like a spark. But what I experience now after 18 years with the same woman is like the Sun. Not only is it infinitely more powerful, but it is a lot hotter!

All of this goodness is because we are striving to practice the virtue of chastity, which is God's plan for our sexuality, and since God created this gift, He know better than we ever could how we should give and receive this incredible gift.

I started out as a young boy aged 12 reading the assorted men's magazines which led to a fantasy world of sexual dreams and self abuse.

This in turn lead to premarital sex with anyone and I said it was love. I would see several different girls in a day for sex. Which was so mundane and boring that I sought other forms of satisfaction and looked at men as well as self abuse.

This in turn lead to male prostitution which led me to homosexual encounters. This also jaded my sexual arousal so that I sought new forms of excitement as well as self abuse.

I then wound up as a bodyguard for a porno distributor who sold movies regularly as they were still against the law suddenly an unlimited supply of fantasy for self abuse. So I saw movies in volume and now had girl friends who were strippers and 1000 dollar a night hookers.

I had it all or so I thought. But I had no peace and slept in fear of death as the evil I dealt with over powered me. People also took out a contract on my life which i missed narrowly as GOD saved me from being killed but I still chased sex.

I have had numerous sexual relationships in between my failed marriages and am currently separated from my second wife and we had pushed the limits of sex before the wedding. The women I dated between my weddings and I entered into immoral relationships which led to our disrespect for one another and a failed relationship.

The failure of our marriages relates back to having impure relations before the marriage we defiled our marriage bed before our marriage.

Currently I am living alone and had slipped into the past escape into the porno circuit but our GOD in His grace sent me believers to confront me and to love me and to pray with me and for me so that abstinence is once more my goal and GOD does supply my every need as I lean on HIM.

My very first kiss was with my wife at my wedding after the pastor said we may kiss. The same was for her, too. Before marriage I did struggle with pornography, and it is something I wish I could erase, but cannot. In the months before marriage I had cleaned up and I am glad I did for if you don't git it right before marriage... I just wouldn't want to see how that would go. I can say though, knowing that we have never kissed anyone but each other, that is something that I don't think I can describe, but if you can pull it off, I know you will be happy about it.

We need anonymous quotes from healthy Christian husbands regarding how much of a blessing their sex lives have been to them. I would also welcome quotes from healthy unmarried Christian men regarding how much of a blessing their abstinence has been to them.

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I doubt seriously there are enough healthy Christian men in connection with you all who are in a long lived healthy marriage (or living as healthy singles) to give enough good reading marital for any real discussion. I believe they are rare indeed and if the do exist they are far from your circles. Speaking as a woman who has been damaged by moral impurity for 5 generations back and who has a “Christian” husband who has betrayed and lied to me for 35 yrs. of marriage, I know all to well the prevalence of what I speak.

Real humility and a willingness to accept the flawed and humanness of a truly human woman is so rare that I doubt, if "to the core honesty" is the test, that anyone will be able to testify for your blog!! Beware. (By the way you can’t have this, to the core honesty, as only God sees the heart.)

RO.....

As I sit here I read your comment I am deeply saddened by your situation. I know you feel very hurt and doubt that any man could be a good, pure, honest and loving husband and man of God.

I will freely admit that I am a flawed man and that in the past my sexual sin has hurt my wife. However, it has also humbled me and strengthened my marriage because of the hurt and pain it has caused her. We've grown together in these past 5 1/2 years of marriage because I've been willing and honest with God, myself and her. I am sorry that this does not sound like the same for you, and I know that even "Good Christian men" lie and sin, but not everyone falls into the category. There truly is good Christian men out there that love their wives more then anything and who have won victory over sexual sin. I will pray for you and that God would bring healing into your heart and into your husband's heart.

My wife is not my accountability partner, but she's so great that she took the time to read "Every Man's Battle" with me. After getting past the initial "Men are pigs" feeling, she came to accept me and my struggles. For me, the key facet of love I feel from my wife in this area is partnership. We can talk openly about whether I'm having an easy or hard week regarding lust, and what my weak points are. When she leaves the house, she makes sure to grab my iPod Touch before she leaves (no x3Watch on it). She does it respectfully and with a grin. She so mature! Some ladies might get stuck in the "you're a pig" mentality, or swing the other direction into feeling like my lust is their fault. She consistently finds the middle ground, bearing the burden of purity with me. I thank God for her.

As a 20 year old male virgin, I certainly know the pressures of society to "not get settled down" and to "live". This all includes sex, pornography, and masturbation. In the last 5 or 6 years of my life I have made an active choice to refrain from those and to respect myself and my sexuality. It isn't easy and society and my peers telling me that I am wrong doesn't help.
I think of my choice to abstain from sex until marriage and to live chastity as an investment into my future sex life. I see it as myself putting money in the bank for when I do get married. I am saving myself so I have so much more to give when I am married. A longer lasting, more amazing, and so much greater relationship and sexual intimacy is waiting for me when I am called to marriage.

I'm a married christian man and I can't thank god enough for giving me the strength to turn away from porn. It makes my relationship with my wife so much better. I have stop watching a lot of TV & no r rated movies helps me. I find reading my bible helps keep my mind trained on him at all times and meditating on the word as much as possible. I'm done with being conformed to this world.And it's all thanks to god with out him it would not have been possible. Joshua 1:6 Be Strong And of a good courage

I am a 23 year old male virgin and in my teens I dealt with pornography and masturbation. It wasn't until I heard a great man of God preach at my church talk about his past sexual sins that lead to change. I realized that it wasn't just a selfish thing but it would effect my future wife and children if I lived that kind of life style. Most importantly, it effected my relationship with God, as our bodies our holy temples and should be treated as such. I won't say that it is always easy or that I don't ever have to deal with lust but it is easy in the sense that I have waited 23 years for my wife and will not ruin that for a moment of satisfaction. It's a realization that only by the grace of God have I waited this long and will continue to wait.

After being a "player" all my life, I finally got it together. I decided to quit pursuing sex and start looking for an emotionally healthy woman. It was strange to me to discover how hard it was to live in this age and not meet women who use sex as a measuring stick too. Sex was hard to avoid. I fell a couple of times but with prayer and a true desire to honor God, I was able to finally abstain.
I continued to date, but it soon became clear that most of the dates would not see a second or third. It was during this time that I met my wife.
She came from another culture (Iran) where sex is strictly guarded and saved for marriage. But as we had both been married before, It seemed reasonable to be relaxed in the intimacy department.
I tell you we did not relax. There were many times I would leave instead of becoming intimate. It was never easy! It took work from both of us. Was it worth the work?
YES! Today we are happily married for 3 1/2 years. And as "hokey" as it might sound, we are best friends, literally.
By abstaining while we were dating, we became really good friends. And after some of the arguments we've had, It's refreshing to have a relationship that is more friendship and not just sex.
I hope this helps someone,
James

RO said:

"I doubt seriously there are enough healthy Christian men in connection with you all who are in a long lived healthy marriage (or living as healthy singles) to give enough good reading marital for any real discussion."

There are more healthy sex lives among married Christians than you might think. Whether of not they are connected to this fine ministry I don't know, but the situation is getting better for some.

CRAIG & STEVEN - I won't pimp my ministry here, but if you would like to e-mail me privately I can connect you with my message boards that has many married Christian men with very positive things to say about sex.

In His service,

Rev Paul

We are all broken vessels, sexually as well as otherwise, but God brings health to the soul who is able to freely admit that brokenness. Through 38 years of marriage (our ages are 60 and 58) we have found increasing joy in our sexual relationship despite having had struggles with deviant sexuality (me - the husband) and misunderstanding of the male sexual need (M. - the wife). For 27 years I struggled alone, but God was faithful and we have found healing and deeper intimacy through confession and living in light -- not hiding in shame. (Though I never had sex physically outside of our marriage, I finally realized that the sexual fantasies I allowed, both heterosexual and deviant, made me both as guilty and as unhealthy as though I had) Our lovemaking has deeply satisfied my sexual longings and caused me to know more of true intimacy, while it has given (this is from my wife, who is at my side) joy (fun! fun! fun!) and the fulfillment of my exclusive affection to M. My primary love language, btw, is (you may have guessed) physical affection, while my wife's is quality time and acts of service, in equal measure. We both see humor and wisdom in this combination -- yea, God!! We also enjoy communion with the great Designer of sex during our lovemaking. We enjoy the thought that we can strike a blow at Satan through our sexual pleasures and intimacy. I would like to add that giving one another sexual pleasure ignites both the fires of passion and the commitment of true love that was designed by God for ONE MAN AND ONE WOMAN.

I'm a 24 year old male virgin. Yes, we do exist :) even though sometimes it feels like you're the only one. Keeping pure is something I can never thank God enough for. It's by His grace!

My wife and I have been married around 30 years. Our sex life has included frequesnt insecurities about our bodies, my misunderstanding and ignorance about how to bring my wife to orgasm, my lack of confidence in my role as husband and lover, chronic premature ejaculation, my wife's affair with another man, my inclination to masturbate instead of pursuing my wife, my wife's battle with breast cancer, my confession of same sex attraction, my confession of masturbation, my confession of porn, ,my confession of visiting chat rooms with other men, and my wife's early menopause brought on by chemo therapy and I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. We have persevered and God has blessed! Our sex life has matured and blossomed into true intimacy. We have both had to admit and confess our failures. We have opened up and become transparent to one another. We have forgiven one another. We have loved unconditionally through all of our difficulties and now we are reaping the reward of true intimacy which includes an incredible sex life.

Regarding my last post, I need to clarify something. When I said, "I wouldn't trade any of it for the world," of course, I do have regrets and wish things had been different. I wish both my wife and I had not struggled silently through our various sins, mistakes and insecurities. But God, who is always faithful, used all of that stuff and brought good out of it. So, what I want to communicate is this: I'd rather have gone through all the crap which has eventually led me to an incredibly fulfilling marriage than to have not made any mistakes and lived with the status quo marriage that I see so many settling for.

There is a myth that long term, sex in a marriage becomes dull and unfilfilling. Well, I'm no scientist (in fact I'm a comedian) but I have got to say that it is exactly that - a myth!

My wife and I will have been married 15 years this September, and I have to say that the sex just gets better and my wife just gets hotter every year! (When I say "every year", I don't mean once a year every July 9 either - just making sure my comment isn't used to reinforce the "myth"!)

I'm not sure whether its that we progressively become more comfortable with our own bodies, or each other bodies, or a combination, or something else, or what. But I have to say, I much prefer sex at 35 than I did at 20! And I am looking forward to how the next 15 years and beyond is gonna go!

Nothing can compare with the sex life of someone that is married. No worries about who will find out. Everyone already knows what you do anyway! No worries about guilt. No worries about messing up someone's--or actually--many people's lives. It is freeing. It is challenging as I are always finding new ways to get my wife to enjoy it. It is sacrificial because I'm more concerned about her enjoying it--which in turn makes me enjoy it more!

Thaddeus, keep up the good work. At the same time, put yourself in situations where you are likely to date healthy Christian women. We are all broken in some way and need God's grace and you should not completely avoid a woman who is not a virgin or who has not been scared by sexual sin - her sin or the sin of others - however, sex in marriage is very fulfilling when both husband and wife are free in Christ, devoted to him, and free to enjoy each other.

I have been married for 16 years. My wife had major sexual sin and pain from her past, and I had some esteem problems that have played out in some painful ways, but God has brought us through.

I have occasionally struggled with pornography, especially with the internet - I would encourage that you do everything you can to avoid such sins, too. God can use our failures and our pain to accomplish his will, but he can also use healthy, fulfilled, and stable people who DON'T have all kinds of scars - God can use them in some ways that are really powerful. God uses all of us, but strive to be in the unscathed group - it is really much more fun!

There's a definite spiritual connection that takes place when we have sex within God's desired context. I've never experienced anything better. It's like taking two fresh pieces of duck tape and sticking them together.. who can tear that apart? God knew what he was thinking when he prepared this gift for us!!

I have been married for over 9 years and God has been all over our marriage. My wife and I were both virgins before we married. Our friendship and closeness in marriage overflows in the marriage bed. We have sex around 5-6 times a week. It is natural and normal. We both seek to serve each other in our marriage. I honor my wife by having conversation with her everyday. I would never deprive her of that. I talk to her because I love her and desire to get to know her and know she loves to talk. In the same way, my wife knows how important sex is to me and likes it at the same time. Just a normal guy that loves God and pursues his wife.

Thank you for encouraging married and single men to share on this topic. My wife and I have been married 16 years and our sexual intimacy just keeps getting better and better. We have been blessed by two marriage seminars, that emphasize the sexual relationship and its importance, Love and Respect, www.loveandrespect.com, and Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage - Mark Gungor. I can't recommend these seminars and ministries highly enough to couples. I would agree with other comments that when we have sex regularly I have little or no desire to respond to the sexual temptations that are all around me.

Notes from a 15 year marriage: great foundation shaking sex has less to do with technique and form than with the depth of the relationship and the degree of connection between the two participants. It's both an expression and reflection of your relationship. And considering the fluency of any relationship, this kind of crazy vibrant sex is not something that's "obtained" so much as continually worked on or worked towards. Not surprisingly, it will have its ebbs and flows.

Been married 9 years. I have Safe Eyes loaded on my computer and my wife is the one with the password! My sex life is off the chain. I love her so much it's like hearing music in my head all day long. No joke I would die for this woman and I almost hate to call it a marriage since they seem to have a 50% fail rate. She is my Life/Spiritual/Soul Mate!!!

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!

RO wrote that xxxchurch couldn't find enough healthy men...and that made me want to stand tall and say we are out here.

I came to Christ at a young age, lived in an "underclass" neighborhood where all sorts of evil (including porn) was easily accessible. In fifth grade my classmates began to be sexually active. I entered puberty earlier than most of my friends.

AND YET, God protected me from EVER being a consumer of porn, the first and only woman I have had any type of sexual interaction with is my wife...AND we waited for intercourse until after we were married. We are married now 19 years and I love her more deeply now than I did 23 years ago when we started dating. I have two daughters and I understand in my soul that the women/girls on porn sites are someone's daughter. I would never want men to use my girls in that way, so it makes me physically ill to even think about consuming porn in any form. I have one son who is now a sophomore at university. I have raised him up to respect women, to never consume porn and he too is without sexual experience of any kind and has kept himself pure from porn. IT CAN BE DONE, by the grace of God and the obedience of man.

I've been married for 37 years. My wife and I are closer than ever. On a scale of 1-10 I would rate our sex life a 12. I've had my struggles. We've even been to counseling. There has been some rough times but we never gave up. If you are struggling in your marriage DON"T GIVE UP!! KEEP PRAYING!!! KEEP BELIEVEING!!!! WE SERVE A BIG GOD. My father said being married isn't for sissies. He was right. It takes alot of work.

After spending HALF MY LIFE addicted to porn, I can say I don't miss a thing about it. Praise God.

I have been in a relationship for longer than 5 years and we tend to do it every once in a while. I don't really care cause we love each other. God has yet to tell me its wrong, so I am just gonna keep pluggin along...

I have struggled a great deal with pornography and lust.

I have gone through periods where i can walk proudly down the street and to my work in the knowledge that I am clean (though not always in the light of God as I have had and still have gigantic questions surrounding my faith, like David, like Thomas, I hoping it is okay to come to the Lord with questions cause i have many...).

I have also gone through periods in my life where I find it difficult to hold my head up high and proud because I know what I have just done, I have a reel playing in my mind of the images I have just viewed and, yes, masturbated to and they are still swirling through my brain as I get on the bus or walk down the street, surrounded by attractive girls and women, head full of lust and regret, a lethal combination for any sense of purpose and dignity.

I have recently entered into a wonderful new relationship with a lovely Baptist girl who has no questions at all about her faith and God's presence in her life and feel as though she has been brought to me by God's loving will, as a way of saying here you are, notice given, presence demonstrated.
We have been trying our hardest to have a pure relationship before marriage, though we are both divorced and she has children from her previous marriage, we know that it is important to abstain; though we have slipped a couple of times, and while we do pleasure each other in a sexual way, it is most generally not through intercourse.

Trouble is lately I have slipped, for some reason. The dark and demonstrably divisive presence of internet pornography has come back and, with the advent of summer and the temptation of scantily dressed women on every street and sidewalk I have found myself in a lustful and covetous lack of moral conviction and Holy light.
It is a horrible feeling, it has felt more like an addiction this time than at any other time in my life and I need all the help i can find because I know how damaging this is, how wrong it is, how unfair to my beautiful and loving girlfriend.
Life is better without pornography and lust-filled temptations; I pray for strength to uphold the courage of my convictions in the face of Satan's power.
Thank you for your prayers...

Sexual abstinence is one of the most valuable gifts you can give your wife on your wedding night. But most importantly, refraining from all manners of sexual immorality is so beautiful in the Lord's eyes. He sees the struggle and knows its pains. When we make a decision to pursue righteousness the Lord is pleased and He is glorified.

Papa George...
READ your BIBLE man.



But anyways...
I'm a 20 yr old physical Virgin. Mentally i'm a pro at fantasy and that's something i'm working with God to bridle. I can't wait for the days when I can wake up next to my wife. Abstinence has been a large conviction for me and has challenged me to look women in the eye and not the chest. ;)
Remembering that women are emotional, spiritual beings instead of meat (Like society tells us) allows us to love them instead of take from them. (Emotioinally, Spiritually, Physically or in Fantasy)


i trust that God, the inventor of sex has some surprizes and blessings that could never be given to a boy who can't wait for them.

SEX is great. My wife and I waited till we were married and since we were virgins it was awesome. There truly is no comparision for the peace of mind you have when your lying next to your spouse knowing you both were pure.
I was 25 so I wasn't immuned to the constant temptations and neither was my wife.
One thing that I believe the Lord used to bless my walk was whenever I felt really low or lust seemed at every corner was Fasting and Prayer.
God bless you guys

It is difficult to be a man who struggles with same sex attraction. I have a wife of 19 years who know of my struggles and for the most part we have survived this storm. We have remained faithful to each other and by God's grace have stayed together. I hate it when out of nowhere, the enemy strikes and in a moment of weakness I fall via the internet. The guilt that results is overwhelming. At times it doesn't seem that I really fit in with the "normal" lust and thus can't really talk about it with other guys. So, I bel forgiveness, repent and start over. I guess it is not the failures but the decision to start over again that matters. By God's grace, I will make it.

I have only been married 3 months, but clean shortly before getting married. there's nothing better thab incorporating God in intimacy with my wife. Everything literally seems incredibly enhanced, time of any sort whethr spent sexually or not, is easily 1000x more enjoyable than when we first experienced our sexuality. Even though i'm both newly married and newly healthy, the struggle and desire for sexuality outside my wife is minimal. One may assume i and my wife are spending our time endeavoring in our sexuality and so this is why i hardly have a desire for sexuality outside of her. It surprised her and myself when we noticed my sex drive was temporarily depressed. I found myself wanting o spend more time talking through meaningful conversations, cuddling, etc. After a little while of praying over what seemed to be the opposite of what would be expected from a very sexually comfortable couple as us, i came to realize that God was actually healing me of my recent past sins so i could experience a pure sexual experience with my wife. I attribute my recent increase in sexuality to God's master plan for a pure sexual life with my wife.

Since then, i can't hardly explain how much better purity is over fantasy. 'Fantasy' being any sexuality outside of purity. Now, my past seems to be nothing but a toy compared to the real thing. Literally, every peice of my life was affected negatively with God's grace and mercy being the only positive in my life. Now i get God's infinite blessing as it seems more and more awesome things are happening in ways i can only ttribute to being blessings God has given.

My wife and I have been married for 13 years. I know we would both say the same thing...When we first got married sex was fun and adventurous, we were both virgins, so we had a lot to learn! Now 13 years later, sex is AMAZING! We choose whether or not we will "make love" with all the special slow intimacy, or whether we will have wild crazy sex, or if one of us just wants a "quicky!" 90% of the time we both reach orgasm together (I know thats hard to believe, but absolutely true!) Honest and open communication has been a key, we have always been open and completely honest with each other even when we thought it might (and sometime did) hurt the other's feelings. And yes men... it pays huge to consider her needs before your own!!! Considering her needs is what Paul was talking about in Eph when we was telling us men to love our wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for it.... not just in your sex lives but in marriage period. And obviously the keeping Jesus first in our lives is the biggest key. We aren't perfect by any means, but He is our first love! I think that this website and the accountibility is great... but I have to wonder for those whose constantly struggle with internet temptations... what we would do without internet in our house... I say that simply because I know a very up and coming pastor of one of the fastest growing churches in our area who made a decision one night several years ago, to throw his computer away because he was tempted. Think about it... in 2008 he leads one of the fastest growing churches in this area of the country and he still refuses to have a computer in his house or office. Obviously he has people around him who email and adminstrate for him, but I think that it is an incredible testamony of a man of God (I say man of God, not because he is a "pastor") who in this day and time is so successful and does not allow internet in his home or even own a computer. That is somebody who is serious about not giving into temptation. Am I suggesting someone should get rid of their internet and/or computer?... ABSOLUTELY!! I promise you will survive!!! If you aren't strong enough to survive in the ring, get out of the ring and get the ring out of your house!!! If you find yourself giving into temptation get rid of the temptation! The Bible says to RUN!!!! not stand there and debate over the matter, not turn around or look away... GET AWAY FROM IT! RUN!!! or in the case of computers... get rid of it! Let's see... burn in lust and run the risk of hell or don't have a computer...hmmm I know... tuff decisions... There was another man years ago who took a stance like that and God honored it and used him in incredible ways! He wouldn't allow any kind of literature or radio or even a newspaper in his home. The only communication allowed in his home was a Bible. His name was Smith Wigglesworth! I think it's interesting that so many of us want to be used by God to do great things, but we aren't willing to pay the price to have that kind of relationship with Him!
Anyway, just wanted to share that with someone...

Anyone else who comes up to me and tells me to "read my bible" I am going to punch in the face. The bible was formed at two counciles in the 4th century, Nicea and Carthage. That is your bible, formed by men, written by men. You don't even know who the authors are to half of the books in your bible. I read the greek and I see the translation errors that you christian posers throw in my face very day. Just thought I would let ya know...