GET A CLUE

It is great that everyone is interacting through comments. Just a friendly reminder that this is the teens section of the XXXchurch. A teen is someone who is 10-19, just to clarify, so please read and comment but respect that this space is for teenagers

I was at the mall the other night and my friends and I saw a kid who was probably 10 or 11 years old who had a shirt on with silhouettes of strippers and: "ALL NIGHT LONG." 

Give me a break right. Why is that cool?

This week lets talk about some teenage myths and lies...and what really is cool...

1. Everyone looks at porn and you are uncool if you don't - um, not really I mean it is way lame when someone uses the "everyone is doing argument." I know the peer pressure is heavy sometimes but understand that not everyone is looking at porn. Be strong under pressure from friends and classmates.

2. Who cares it is just videos and pictures - think about the kid at the mall wearing that shirt. There is a reason he is wearing it. Everything is connected. Everything. What you take in effects you. If you eat McDonalds every day it is horrible for you body. You are what you eat, right?

3. Porn is what sex is going to be like - I am not married but every one of friends who are, straight up tell me that married sex is so far from porn. Porn is fake. Did you watch GI Joes or Batman growing up? Those cartoons were completely fake. Porn is as make believe as Batman and Robin.

One of my good friend's Stephen always says the, oh so 1995's saying "GET A CLUE." In the most loving way possibly get a clue if you are falling for any of these myths or lies.

Enjoy - Classic Batman and Robin fight scene and pic of "get a clue" Stephen...

Ian wrote on July 29th 08 at 04:47PM

Adam West :D

Though, its not quite as cool as Dark Knight. Very close though.

seth wrote on July 31st 08 at 07:21AM

GUYS I NEED HELP

at the start i thought that i could handle it but know i realise i CANT
i have striked again. i need the help guys pls help me out.
I HAVE TO STOP ITS RUINING ME.
i have also found out that i dont like looking at porn or masterbate (i never have will never masterbate i find that really wrong)
to me i find looking at porn disgusting and what they is disgusting but for some reason i cant so pls help me?
i dont dare ask anybody i know to be an accountabilibuddy so if possible and this site do that for me?

PLS HELP ME PLS PLS

brandon wrote on July 31st 08 at 12:45PM

Seth - have you spoke to anyone you trust about all this?

Garrett Blasingame wrote on August 1st 08 at 12:30AM

I don't know if this is what Brandon's referring to, but an accountability partner is pretty close to crucial. I don't really have one, and I'm barely struggling by. Continue to pray, and try to find verses in the Bible that refer to perseverence. Every time you successfully resist you get stronger, and as discouraging as it is if/when you fall again, continue. I was ridiculously fatalistic about it, and decided to just continue, but I changed and feel much better for it.

John wrote on August 1st 08 at 01:30AM

I have been going through this for 2 years! It has been eating me alive! I told my pastor a couple days ok. I felt like the world had been lefted off of me.

miguel wrote on August 1st 08 at 05:46PM

one thing you get with accountability is confessing your sin. You can try to make it on your own, but if you don't confess it then you just gave the devil and inch. And remember, give the devil and inch and he'll become a ruler.
i have accountability and it is so amazing!!! ive been really blessed to have a guy to help me out. I mean, once i confess it i become blameless. i walk away and my burdens are off of me. Now that doesnt give me a license to sin, thats not what im trying to say. its just that porn is a secret and you do it alone. By getting rid of it, you put it in the light

Ace wrote on August 2nd 08 at 05:31PM

Hey, yeah i have been struggling for over 2 years now, and i was in the exact same position, i hated looking but for some reason couldnt stop. Firstly you need to tell someone who you can trust. It was funny tho cos i told my youth pastor once and it didnt really help, he was trying to keep my accountable but i still couldnt stop. Though about 9 months later i told my new youth pastor cos i moved and it helped me so much, so even if telling someone doesnt work straight away, keep at it.

Also one thing that i found really helped me was everytime i get any type of bad thought, no matter where you are, just pray! focus your eyes to god.

Also dont thiink that you will never get passed it, you will! i guarantee! Jesus died for exactly this, so we could overcome our sins in His name and through the power of the holy spirit.

Hope this helped.
God bless

George wrote on August 3rd 08 at 07:47PM

I need help too i cant or don't know anyone whom i really trust, maybe cause i dont know anybody at church. I've told my parents but they don't really help, or don't know how to i want to get the Filter but my parents wont know how to use it. Besides my parent think I'll go around the filter knowing that i know much about computers. how can i get a accountability partner?

Garrett Blasingame wrote on August 3rd 08 at 08:57PM

the best you can do is try to develop a relationship with someone you feel you can trust and pray with, and eventually ask them to be your accountability partner. Try to meet once a week week at least, or call them on the phone once a week, depending on how busy ya are.

Ayden Martin wrote on August 4th 08 at 02:03AM

I am hoping I can go to the BCM at NKU on September 23rd but I don't want to go unless I cam get some guys from my Youth Group to go with me. I am still a Virgin but I have struggled with Porn and Masturbation since the 6th grade, I have only been a christian for a month now but I can see how much it is hurting me and my walk with Christ .

Carlos wrote on August 4th 08 at 04:26PM

I really need halp.
I thought that porn and masterbation was something i get over by myself.
that worked for a god long while and then the devil came out of nowhere and now i am starting to get back on to it.
i mean i am only 14 this shouildnt be a problem.
i really truly need help.
i have an accountability partner but i lie to them.
i just want to talk to someone that i can trust and that can try and help me.
i feel like this is pushing me away from GOD.
help.

Olive wrote on August 4th 08 at 05:21PM

My friends and i just had a conversation about this accountibility thing and we all said that we had done it. We all quit and i was good until one day i was on the internet and a popup of porn came up and i was hooked again. I tried to tell my friends but all that came out was "Im still porn free." So i am in the same boat as you carlos. It is tearing me and my relationship with god apart. I tired of it

carlos wrote on August 7th 08 at 12:15AM

yea olive i have an accountablity partner and i have two problems with that one: i am deeper in my faith and two: i am a guy and she is a girl so it dosent really work out.
i am seeking god and praying if you ever want to talk or you find your self hooked again or just peeking just talk to m or email me.
i am happy to talk i have been told that i am a good accountabilty partner.
so yea if you want one who can give you advice then i am free to talk.
and any body else.
bvut i am still struggling the devil knows this is one f my weaknesses so he uses to his advantage.