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I feel you man - when I read that someone says "I could never tell anyone this or they would all hate me..." it breaks my heart.

I think the first person I ever told was my fiance (now my wife). It was so freeing to finally have someone else know about all my crap and still care about me.

I tried to talk to people about it after that - in general and vague terms. For where I was in my growth/recovery, it was helpful.

Ultimately though, I really had to own my problems. Simply sharing them with someone I had so much intimacy with wasn't vulnerable enough. I continued to lie to my wife about my use - the boundary was so tough because she is my best friend. But she's also my wife. For years I lied and would occasionally get caught.

Eventually my acting out started to grow again. I got caught and had to confess to my wife and to my boss. This was difficult because I am a pastor and so I knew this might cost me my career. I had to be willing for it to cost me everything.

I then confessed to a close friend who responded with "that was me 4 years ago..." and he told me his story. I started intentionally bringing it up with male friends of mine - "well, you know I really struggle and am tempted by porn..." and not ONE of them ever said "How is this possible?"

I need to be as real as possible. I need to be an open book. There is no freedom when I am hiding things.

Well I went several years without telling anyone, but I did eventually tell someone the truth. When this person remembers to hold me accountable, I usually don't mess up. But when she doesn't ask about it for a while and I assume she's forgotten, then I tend to mess up again. So accountablity really is important, even though it's often very difficult to admit when I make mistakes.

Yeah Tim i agree with you. Is this supposed to be the reaction of Christians? to condemn and judge ppl that others hav 2 hide their sins from ppl so they wont be judged by others? this crushes me to think that someone is out there not getting prayer and help because they r afraid of wat others think of them. yes i have my addiction but with Gods help im going 2 get through it. God does say judge ppl He says to encourage them. lets start encouraging ppl to be open with us.That is the first step to becoming a Christian is the acknowledgment of our sins. It does no good hiding things as we all know. I say the more ppl that know i hav a problem are more ppl that can hold me accountable and pray for me. Im also going to b a Youth Minister. Follow the path of love for God always and God will always be there.

To Haylee

I will keep praying 4 u and every1 n this place we call the world.

I am 13 years old and have a porn addiction problem. It started about 2 years ago when i first masturbated and I have been doing it ever since. There are a bunch of sites that I used to go on everyday. I'm not a lonely person, I have a ton of friends and play for the school basketball team. For the last month I have been trying every day to stop my addiction going for a few days at a time and always find myself watching porn again. It is a problem I would do anything to stop. Now I can really understand how hard it is to stop smoking I guess. I have literally been masturbating everyday for the last two years. I just don't know what to do anymore.

hey people whats up. im trevor im 16 and ive dealt with porn since 8th grade im now a jr in high school. well i guess untill about last year i had a major addiction to porn. but i got help. at my camp for church i came out that was about 2 years ago and 4 other guys said they did to. were now in this accountability group for guys with this problem. its great. we now speak at our church about accountability and how God really works. i beat porn and so can you. praise God. but i couldn't of done it with out this sight you guys really encouraged me though tough times before my group thank you.

Trevor

Well... where should i start... Lets see, i got introduced to anime porn by one of my best friends in i think it was 3rd grade. From 2nd to 5th grade, my big brother and neighbor/friend continued to experiement with me through sex over and over again. At that point of my life i had no idea what they were doing to me, so i just went along with it. I didnt understand the meaning of sex or anything about it. I still remember in 4th grade, my neighbor/friend's friend brought his friend down to our culdisac, and he experimented with me and my other friends who i was hanging with at the time. I still didnt know what they were trying to do. After all those years, that caused me to masturbate over and over and over again, not knowing that it was the wrong thing to do. So i continued to do it, and in 7th grade, i started looking into porn myself, especially since i was homeschooled. That was a very horrible year. I was very VERY sneeky that year. It was the end of 8th grade when i found that it was the wrong thing to do, and that i needed God in my life to make it through. And so i got baptized Dec. 16th 2007. But after i got baptized, i felt the temptation becoming even stronger than before i got baptized. I still get tempted every so often and look at porn, and even my minster gave us advice at camp to go to this website and download the software. The only problem i have is .... how am i gonna tell my dad. I just feel nervous and weird when i talk to him about that stuff. I just think that he'll look at me a different way from now on, especially since i've been hiding it for all of these years. I really need some advice on it.... because i really need to get this guilt off of me once and for all so i can be free. I'm gonna be soooooo happy when i do, too. Thanks for listening and for all the encouragement guys.

Hi, im 16 and im addicted to porn and masturbating. I want to stop, and so that is why i am writing this. I want God to be in control and be the center of every aspect of my life.

I am 17 and a senior in high school. I have been addicted to porn since middle school. My girlfriend, who I love very much, has dealt with pornography addictions within her own family. She has told me if I ever looked at porn she would dump me. One night i told her that I was addicted, but that I had got past it. That was a complete lie. So now she thinks I no longer look at porn, even though not even 20 minutes ago I just masturbated to it.

Wow. I was addicted to porn about a year ago and then I overcame it after my dad found out. But since I got a computer in my room it's been leaking in. I know I need to tell someone. I know I do. I just. Everybody thinks I don't. I'm going to have to stick my foot so far into my mouth.

My name is nate, i am a sophmore in high school and have been addicted to prn since 5th grade. i am currently in a realtionship of almost 1 year, and my girlfreind discovered my addiction about 4 months into it. unfortunatley, she was the same as me. since then me and her have done somethings that neither of us are proud of. we havent had sex, but i fear that if we continue like we have we will. she recently discovered this website and sent me the link. i have been read all i can and my girlfriend and i have decided that we are gonna get better. we made a plan. if either of us get the urge to do something, call the other, and talk it out. talk through it. we have been doing this for about two weeks now and its getting easier every day. it definatly helps to know that there are other people like me.

i have been struggling with porn and masterbation. for about... umm 2 or no... 4 months. i know not that long. my bf. told me that he was strugling with it. and so i said that i would pray. and keep him accountable. well i started to get interested in just what was porn exactly. so i looked at it. and well.. it was not good. and i lost my viriginity. (im 15) i was so stupid. so last night we went to a new years eve party, at his church. and he took me home. he kissed me good night. but i was not done. i went for more. then he pushed me away. we talked for about a hour on how we really need to stop and that we really need to start living for God. and not for our human pleasure. he also said that i need to get someone who i can be accountable too. aka. my sister. i am so scared. i still have not told her, but i just want to have that accountablity partner, i read a lot of those stories well blog coments on how accountablity really works. and i am pretty excited about it.
so i am in a way set free! and i am so excited. :D