Porn & Family "Children"

"The number one way that people are introduced to pornography is by looking at their parents porn stash that they find."

Given the rate at which this is changing, I think this claim might already be outdated :> The number of parents with a physical porn-stash is diminishing in favor of an online stash - either a folder of files, or an oft-visited webpage.

"The average age that a child sees porn for the first time is now at the age of 11 and is getting younger."

A more meaningful statistic would be the age at which they first deliberatly look at porn. I don't know a lot of children, but if I had seen porn at eleven I'd have just ignored it. Such things held no interest for me at that age.

Maybe I did see some. I wouldn't have remembered it. Also, source your statistics. Every time. No exceptions.

Thank you for your thoughts. I'm going to be a new father soon and I've struggled with porn addiction on and off for a long time. I've been pure for a little while but to be honest, Satan was weaseling his way into my head today and so I came to this sight in search of refocussing. Your blog entry reminded me that there is so much more than just me on the line. Thank you for your efforts and praise the LORD that you guys were able to overcome this beast.
--And just for a different perspective to the previous comment, the first time I saw porn I was very young and I was very interested in it... very curious. I didn't seek it out, but it was there in my face and became addicted pretty quickly after that. So perhaps your perspective (Raven) could be broadened a bit.

Yes, children learn what they live. My father thought he hid his paper dolls ( Playboys ) well , well in fact he stashed them in places easily accessed by his loving daughter. I learned that Daddy valued naked women and used them for entertainment at a very young age ( around age 8). I also learned that Granpa was a pedophile who use the same then came after me when those needs were no longer met by paper images..inscest is not a pleasant thing. I later was further exposed to such garbage by my husband and second husband -both casual users who degraded and used me for sex and then turned around and showed or told me I wasn't good enough for them with porn..I didn't measure up as a woman in their world for sexual satisfaction or pleasure..So - yes - Little girls learn early on what their Daddy's & men value..sex on the side/ a peep show/ a bump and grind world that destroys a child's self image of how to let men treat you..I learned I'm valued for my size, shape, and sexuality far more than my mind or heart. That wedding vows of purity and commitment mean nothing to men, and they will seek a sexual good time no matter what a woman does to satisfy and please her man at home. Sex on the side and outside of marriage is gold to men. There were women that you fantasize and sleep with and then there were the good girls that you marry. Never the two shall meet- but he was sure to have both..in that double life..which lead to family discourd and fighting thanks to an escillation that turned to an affair as he no longer viewed my mother as hot or sexy thanks to porn. Men's views of it doesn't hurt anyone..is false- just like the fantasy sex they think is nervana outside of the real loving relationship they destroy with their wives and family. Dream on if you think a child doesn't get it..or see it...or learn behaviors or attitudes from it. You are the pedophile / and exposer of porn to your families by trying to view and use no matter what the form. It will trickle down and scar and hurt no matter what the age. Lesson's I still remember and hurt that never can me taken away..I'm an incest survivor and now double betrayed wife thanks to the callouse and uncaring behavior of men..men who made poor choices that could have been avoided had they only learned to value the women in their world and not turn to a little guy fun on the side. Men suck in my eyes..just like porn.

Yes, children learn what they live. My father thought he hid his paper dolls ( Playboys ) well , well in fact he stashed them in places easily accessed by his loving daughter. I learned that Daddy valued naked women and used them for entertainment at a very young age ( around age 8). I also learned that Granpa was a pedophile who use the same then came after me when those needs were no longer met by paper images..inscest is not a pleasant thing. I later was further exposed to such garbage by my husband and second husband -both casual users who degraded and used me for sex and then turned around and showed or told me I wasn't good enough for them with porn..I didn't measure up as a woman in their world for sexual satisfaction or pleasure..So - yes - Little girls learn early on what their Daddy's & men value..sex on the side/ a peep show/ a bump and grind world that destroys a child's self image of how to let men treat you..I learned I'm valued for my size, shape, and sexuality far more than my mind or heart. That wedding vows of purity and commitment mean nothing to men, and they will seek a sexual good time no matter what a woman does to satisfy and please her man at home. Sex on the side and outside of marriage is gold to men. There were women that you fantasize and sleep with and then there were the good girls that you marry. Never the two shall meet- but he was sure to have both..in that double life..which lead to family discourd and fighting thanks to an escillation that turned to an affair as he no longer viewed my mother as hot or sexy thanks to porn. Men's views of it doesn't hurt anyone..is false- just like the fantasy sex they think is nervana outside of the real loving relationship they destroy with their wives and family. Dream on if you think a child doesn't get it..or see it...or learn behaviors or attitudes from it. You are the pedophile / and exposer of porn to your families by trying to view and use no matter what the form. It will trickle down and scar and hurt no matter what the age. Lesson's I still remember and hurt that never can me taken away..I'm an incest survivor and now double betrayed wife thanks to the callouse and uncaring behavior of men..men who made poor choices that could have been avoided had they only learned to value the women in their world and not turn to a little guy fun on the side. Men suck in my eyes..just like porn.

KBinAZ - my heart weeps for the damage wrought upon you by the men your life. As a recovering porn addict of 15 years, I know how the struggle twists the minds and perceptions of men. It is bondage. It is pain. It is emptyness. it is frustration defined. This world and it's prince strive to destroy everything that God has made by perverting it and twisting it against its purpose. The removal of the father from the home. The destruction of marriages and the ruination of lives. These are struggles we must fight to overcome.

While your father and husband(s) fell to their desires, I urge you to look toward heaven. God is our father and Christ is our husband and neither will fail you nor betray you nor hurt you. For even in our brokenness, even in our hurt and pain, God holds us close to Him and we can find rest in His arms. Only in Him can we be made whole.

Mark: Thanks for the words of encouragement. It made my eyes rain a bit. I now find total frustration on many levels at men in general. Most men need a new attitude about women, marriage, and life. This I need to be a macho stud and bed as many women as I can before I die crap is rediculous. What does that prove????? That your a man HO, unfaithful, untrustworthy. non commited?????? OH, isn't if great. Is that the kind of man or character values you want to show your families, friends, and children? Just so you can stroke your ego and get your grove thing on?? Gross..

Christians and adults in general need to voice their opinions of dislike at retailers who push the smut/ mag rags, etc. in all places and at all age level faces daily. If you are patronizing a store that sells crap and shoves poor body image junk in the eyes of children..usually at eye level as you check out.. You know those fashion/ car/ health/fitness mags, etc. that push the celebrity way of morals/ life , half naked - be sexy- Hot , Great sex tricks- junk everywhere..Then speak up to management and say - Hey, you know this offends me - and here's why. I'm all for freedom of speech, etc. But put that junk where it belongs. In the magazine isle. and out of the reach and eyes of children. If it has some girly shot of some misguided soul out pimping their bod for the camera, letting themselves be used for one purpose only..to bring on a paycheck in exchange for sexual shots..that evoke a sexual response in men..as entertainment or decorations of trash and flash - then put it up and cover it up behind something less provacative.So, I don't have to drag my child down that isle to get to the other products I need while exposing them to softcore or hardcore porn covers., etc. As in the yealy swimsuit mag rag...usually place in boxes at the 3ft level. Showing me what kind of trim job she got at the local salon as she pulls down that top or bottom peice to flash a bit more skin..Or you know the men's interest garbage..all peep show babes out putting thier goods on display..at the local hardware store, book store, etc. What kind of message is that sending to our youth? I am a huge advocate for change in retail currently. I'm turning my furror at men into action to make a difference in my community and others. I do it daily now and I have gotten some results. I do it politely and back it up with suggestions of how to market the same product but not in the eyes of children. IF you want to be a cheezy and sleazy adult that you deal, but I don't have to buy into it or just take it as the norm. I don't spend money or go to places that support making a profit off of women's bodies anymore. If only a small fraction of shopper would do the same with local and national stores a big change would happen. Companies dont' like to be hit in the profit margin. I don't buy products that push the girly / man show adds either..Like beer companies, professional sporting events that push the dancers show that are less than family freindly.., magazine's that push poor body images, etc. . I am done being a passive supporter of porn and it's media ideals at young kids & men who are exposed to a plethora of negative images daily. It is out of control. I don't watch much TV either. Too many adds with sexual themes and lack of respect for women or marriage. I write or email large corporations CEO's with my views as a consumer who shops in thier stores. You'd be surprised how fast they respond when it effects a local mangement teams surveys of customer satisfaction. I usually get a phone call or email back within 48 hours. I go up and above to the big dogs. It's not hard to find who's in charge with the internet at your fingertips.

But men in this country need to learn that even though we feel like the tide of porn ideals is closing in on social norms that push it in your face constantly...doesn't mean it's OK to subcome to thier weaknesses and just accept that it's a way of American Life. Sex sells baby but it don't make it right. I will not just get over it and be called a prude or religous zealot. I am none of those things. I am however, at woman, a mom, and a cosumer fed up with the current system of male dominance- pornacized nation. I will not lighten up, just get over it, take it easy.. thinking..NOpe..My kid calls me the poster child of anti porn/ smut. I have risen to the task and will be a crusader for change. My belief in God's plan drives me to post here and do those things. So men like you or women like me see some value in the horrible mess men have made of me and my self esteem. Maybe they will rethink for one second that they are causing a trickle down effect in someone elses life other than their own selfish needs.

I see the poor attitudes and conditioned response of men to lustful thinking so clearly now..Just this afternoon as I waited to pick up my child from High School. I sat and observed many of the Dads in cars peeping away a young girls while they wait for their own kid to come out. It disgusts me and I just want to scream at them..bet your wife and kid would love to see that on video..idiots who have crossed the lines of decency boundaries..It is not OK for a man of a certain age to be gawking at the jail bait shakin it as they walk on by. Would they like some other dude in their forties, etc. thinking those same thought about thier own daughter? Bet not. I feel it as I go about daily life..putting gas in the car, at the grociery story, etc. Men of all ages who leer at me as they stand there with their wedding band on. I again want to just shout..go home and look at your wife that way..jerk. I am a jaded and herdened soul but I am forever keeping my faith in the Lord. My faith in men is weak..but comments from men like you who see the light a bit is refreshing. Keep up the fight..It's not that hard really..it's just a matter of will and choice. It's all in what you feed your mind with. Goodness or Darkness..

I first came into porn st about 8years. Are lodger was an occultist and paedophile with a hole lode of scrap books full of Polaroids of his little girl victims. He showed me mostly magazines that were legal for adults in the UK then. I got much of my then mixed up view of sex then. One of my mothers male friends interfered sexually with me next causing my first orgasm. Then masturbation was something I did regularly. I found one of my fathers magazines it was gay porn my parents separated when I was about 6 or 7 I think. I thought the mag wasn't his but could see how being chained naked to a wall could be exciting. Parents of children at school were wary of me who seemed obsessed by sex. At the age of 12 the paedophiles got hold of me again and used me as homosexuals do and after many years I enjoyed it.

But knew deep down I wanted women this manifested itself in transvestism. I was unable to relate to women though I relay wanted them, the transvestism just a means of becoming one flesh with a woman I understand better now.

After moving to Scotland I enjoying the pub seen found that after a few beers I was no longer afraid of being rejected by women and eventually after a little womanising got what I really wanted a serious girl friend. She left me in the end it nearly destroyed me. A few years later on a visit to Poland God caused me to seek him as a priority after in my young childhood I had made vows to him not to let me turn as my mother did who left my Dad and did not serve God as I wanted, (even though I was this confused over sex as a child). As an adolescent universalism replaced Christianity until several girls showed an interest in church one of them taking me to a service at Duram cathedral. After the Polish trip I sort God full swing though and he converted me to a born again Christean that I still am since June 1992. Now I have a wife and 3 children, PRAISE GOD.

Though I in my late teens had been a gay porn model and performed sex for money this has completely left me until the Internet. When reading some of these testimonies I can see my use of heterosexual, (all Gay feelings have long ago gone) porn is only light habitual or early addiction. I never give up trying to bet it and always repent sometimes losing the will to live after I have been such an abomination. This week has been much better I had a good Sunday at church and managed to confess my sin to a brother.

This xxx church is going to help me overcome I found it whilst surfing for porn. Even men can be victims of men. If my mother had stayed at home with us and not left things might not have been so bad, but I dont blame her for leaving as I know my Dad was difficult. I love my family and think of the young girl described above as a loving daughter as just like my lovely young child and I desperately want never to look at porn again. I want to say sorry to you ??? for all you have been through because of abusive men. I hate what they did to you but know that the first comment said is so true, God loves you as the innocent child you were.

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I first came into porn at bout 8 years. Our lodger was an occultist and paedophile with a whole lode of scrap books full of Polaroids of his little girl victims. He showed me mostly magazines that were legal for adults in the UK then. I got much of my then mixed up view of sex then. One of my mothers male friends interfered sexually with me next causing my first orgasm. Then masturbation was something I did regularly. I found one of my fathers magazines it was gay porn my parents separated when I was about 6 or 7 I think. I thought the mag wasn't his but could see how being chained naked to a wall could be exciting. Parents of children at school were wary of me who seemed obsessed by sex. At the age of 12 the paedophiles got hold of me again and used me as homosexuals do and after many years I enjoyed it.

But knew deep down I wanted women this manifested itself in transvestism. I was unable to relate to women though I relay wanted them, the transvestism just a means of becoming one flesh with a woman I understand better now.

After moving to Scotland I enjoying the pub seen found that after a few beers I was no longer afraid of being rejected by women and eventually after a little womanising got what I really wanted a serious girl friend. She left me in the end it nearly destroyed me. A few years later on a visit to Poland God caused me to seek him as a priority after in my young childhood I had made vows to him not to let me turn as my mother did who left my Dad and did not serve God as I wanted, (even though I was this confused over sex as a child). As an adolescent universalism replaced Christianity until several girls showed an interest in church one of them taking me to a service at Durham cathedral. After the Polish trip I sort God full swing though and he converted me to a born again Christean that I still am since June 1992. Now I have a wife and 3 children, PRAISE GOD.

Though I in my late teens had been a gay porn model and performed sex for money this has completely left me until the Internet. When reading some of these testimonies I can see my use of heterosexual, (all Gay feelings have long ago gone) porn is only light habitual or early addiction. I never give up trying to bet it and always repent sometimes losing the will to live after I have been such an abomination. This week has been much better I had a good Sunday at church and managed to confess my sin to a brother.

This xxx church is going to help me overcome I found it whilst surfing for porn. Even men can be victims of men and also if my mother had stayed at home with us and not left things might not have been so bad, but I don't blame her for leaving as I know my Dad was difficult. I love my family and think of the young girl described above as a loving daughter as just like my lovely young daughter and I desperately want never to look at porn again. I want to say sorry to you KBinAZ for all you have been through because of abusive men. I hate what they did to you but know that the first comment said is so true, God loves you as the innocent child you were.

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