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Confessions From Females

By Craig on Fri, Nov 27th 09 at 11:04AM | Permalink | Comments (3)

Everyday people submit confessions on the site. More and more of them are coming from women. This one is from a 17 year old female.

I never thought I'd be the kind of girl to view that sort of thing. But I started viewing video's of girls being spanked and whipped. I'm crying out to God for help, and I know that He will help me if I let Him. But I feel like I'm wierd, like I'm the only one out there and there's something wrong with me.

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Temptation
By Guest on Mon, Nov 23rd 09
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"When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each of you is tempted when you are dragged away by your own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is...

Our friends at Safe Eyes has yet another good blog for you parents.  Safe Eyea is the one filter software that we support and reccoment to everyone. Parents are often encouraged to get Facebook accounts and friend their kids, as a way to keep a tab on their kids online activities on...

Get Well Soon
By Steve-Oh on Mon, Nov 23rd 09
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Over the past several months my blogs have been about getting help and gaining control of porn addiction. I felt that it was time to address the men who are working hard at beating this addiction, give a word of encouragement. I was going to use something my pastor had said about his time...

“And then to top off all your evil acts, you built your bold brothels in every town square. Doom! Doom to you, says God, the Master! At every major intersection you built your bold brothels and exposed your sluttish sex, spreading your legs for everyone who passed by. And then...

Being Thankful
By Nicole on Thu, Nov 26th 09
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Today is Thanksgiving in the States. A day for eating turkey, watching American football, and most importantly for reflecting on all that we are thankful for. I am thankful for so many things, but I am especially thankful for my husband, who has embraced the recovery journey and for the...

Promises
By Jimmy Smuda on Mon, Nov 23rd 09
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There are many things pornography promises. Pornography can promise a temporary satisfaction. Pornography can promise fantasy. Pornography can even promise an escape from realism. It can promise for that one very moment you can leave all your cares behind, and concentrate on that one...

During the past several years, I have witnessed men commit to becoming God’s man through Every Man Ministries. I’ve found that it’s not about asking guys to do more; it’s about asking them to be more. It’s not about asking them to pursue a plan or respond to...

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XXXchurch is designed to bring awareness, openness and accountability to those affected by pornography. We are an online community that tours the world speaking at colleges, churches and community centers. XXXchurch.com exists to help those who are in over their heads with pornography, both consumers and those in the industry.

Craig Gross is the founder and leader of XXXchurch.com. Working alongside Craig is an amazing group of people. XXXchurch is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization that sits under the umbrella of Fireproof Ministries. There is a board of directors overseeing this ministry. XXXchurch is provocative, memorable, and it combines the seedy and the sacred. XXXchurch is here to make you think, react, and to decide where you stand on the issues of porn. We're not here to sling mud, but to shove the envelope and try and do some good. It's hip, relevant, irreverent, honest, fun, and designed for people just like you.

Any Christian man or woman who is engaging in sexual immorality of any kind is a person in conflict. Often it starts by viewing pseudo-pornography-things like modeling sites, chat sites, personal homepages, and other sites that often contain seductive images, but may not be classified as pornography.

Very quickly this kind of online behavior can spiral down to a place where these images don't cut it anymore. At this point the viewer begins to "need" more intense images to be stimulated. Often you will hear someone who has gotten addicted say, "I have no idea how I got here; it started so innocently." Pornography is both very alluring and very addictive. Sexual addiction along with pornography addiction are issues that face many people these days. The websites that are distributing the material are designed to draw in the viewer, dangle free content and easy sign-ups-in an attempt to capture a new user.

There are great "sex addiction" tests all over the web that can help you determine if you are addicted to sex in some form. We are not going to attempt to reproduce those here, but will offer this simple definition and challenge:

If your life is being controlled by your sexual desires and activities, instead of YOU being in control of them, then you have a sexual addiction. Studies have shown that ninety-nine percent of all masturbation involves lust and mental fantasy, which disconnects you from real relationships with real people.

If you sent a bottle of vodka to every home in America every week for a year, you would no doubt have a whole wave of alcoholics. The Internet has created a wave of pornography addicts with its pervasive porn delivery mechanism.