When Is Porn Ever Age-Appropriate?

by Shellie R. Warren on February 15th, 2012 in Women

You know…

It’s always baffled my mind, some of the destructive things that are considered to be ridiculous for a child to do…but OK for adults:

Getting drunk

Dressing immodestly

Being sexually active (outside of marriage)

WATCHING PORN

I thought about this as I read a story yesterday about a man who *accidentally* played some porn for the kiddies at a children’s birthday party. He *thought* it was a Smurf DVD. Um, it wasn’t.

Then I remembered a story that someone from my past once shared with me about his upbringing. According to him, his father played porn in the house *like it was an episode of an afterschool cartoon*. Frequently. Morning. Afternoon. Night. I didn’t matter. He and his siblings, as a adults, continue to battle with porn addiction to this day.

And so as I was processing all of this, I really did think about the fact that I’m sure most of us read stories like the “Smurf one” and cringe. How unfortunate that a child has to be, well, visually assaulted in that way. But you know what? Being that we are biblically called *God’s children* (Psalm 82:6), why are we not *equally as unsettled* when we are “caught” viewing it?

If it’s unsuitable for an innocent child, when did it become appropriate for a son or daughter of the Most High?

Just a thought…

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  • Srb

    Plenty of porn in Utah already.

    I don’t imagine a few seconds of porn will traumatise any children. They aren’t that vulnerable.

    • alm

      I can tell you from experience that they can be. I am addicted to porn, and I am a product of ‘just one glimpse’ that infected my mind until I had to keep going back. Growing up in a sheltered, conservative household, I was never exposed to porn, until I was about 12 when I was babysitting. A few seconds on a TV commercial resulted in my continued need to watch a trashy TV show, and when my dad blocked it, I went online. When he blocked that, I found other ways. ‘Only’ 30 seconds really did hurt me.

      • Srb

        I do not consider anecdotes to be effective arguments. Not even if you find more, given the extreme selection bias in effect.

        • giantswillfall

           yourbrainonporn.com

          • giantswillfall

            There is conscience
            There is common sense
            and yes, there is science.

        • realityck

          In
          essence all current studies found in journals are anecdotal, because they have
          no control groups of non porn users. Asking college age kid how he thinks porn
          has affected him is like asking a fish about water.

          Currently
          the only control groups are young men stopping porn after years of use. These
          guys reports reversal of symptoms – such as social anxiety, depression, lethargy,
          erectile dysfunction, ADD, concentration problems, OCD, and others.

          Anecdotal
          evidence becomes experimental when thousands of people alter only one variable
          and see remission of common symptoms.

          To understand the differences between the adolescent brain and the adult brain read the following –
          Why Shouldn’t Johnny Watch Porn If He Likes?
          http://yourbrainonporn.com/why-shouldnt-johnny-watch-porn-if-he-likes

    • Guest

      Thats pretty ignorant really

  • Mike Kennedy

    If you’re old enough to drive a large 1500-pound machine 110KM on the highway, I think you’ll be okay watching people have sex on a screen.

  • Srb

    Obviously?

    It’s not that simple. Good data is hard to come by, since any proper controlled test would never get ethical approval. You can’t even rely on observational studies because the selection bias is insurmountable. All that leaves are anecdotes, hardly a scientific approach.

    It is modern conventional wisdom that children will be traumatised by sexually explicit material, but this is really a cultural conclusion rather than a scientific one. Remember that up until just a few centuries ago, it was very common for people to be married at fifteen and starting a family. Still is, in some parts of the world. Yet no historical accounts of the millions of children traumatised by sex to young. As for those even younger… would they even notice it for very long?

    I’m not saying that is is a good thing for children to watch porn – just that the perceived impact is greatly exaggerated. It isn’t such a mystically powerful force that it will break them from just the occasional brief exposure.

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