Sexual betrayal in a relationship causes a multitude of issues. There are couples who decide to separate for a period of time, in order to give space for healing.
This is totally normal and ok to do.
Many couples get back together after being separated.
Unfortunately, other marriages end in divorce.
Either way, I want to encourage you that you will get through this.
As a woman who has been betrayed by someone she loves, the devastation can be overwhelming.
There is a way to survive!
Here are the 5 steps you can try during this time:
1. Turn to God during this time and let it all out
Tell Him exactly how you feel. Go ahead, He can handle it. If you have never journaled, why not try now? Write your prayers out to Him.
2. Tell someone you trust what’s going on
This is not about having a gossip session or talking bad about the man who hurt you. This is about your heart and not walking through this alone. Ask for prayer and tell this person how you feel.
3. Read your Bible
Look through God’s Word for the many promises He has for you during this difficult time. What you need at just the time you need it will jump out at you.
4. Don’t let the negative thoughts consume you
Look for the positives in each day.
5. Find the Scriptures that define you
Let God tell you who you are to Him. One of my favorites is Ephesians 2:10.
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I know all too well how life has to continue when you are dealing with this heavy emotional stuff. You have many duties as a wife and maybe a mom. You can’t just stay in bed all day, even if you’d really like to. Do what you have to each day. And know this, you are not alone!
If you haven’t already, get the Recover book from Amazon. The stories will inspire you and encourage you.
Also, if you are able to, join a Recover small group. There are women who have years behind them that would love to walk with you during this time.
I know you might be scared, but don’t be. You will make it through this. I promise.