Letter to myself:

Dear Chris,
You are an addict. You use food, porn, and masturbation to feel better. To be fair, you learned it honestly from watching your parents, but you are still an addict. It’s time to stop hiding in the bedroom and in the kitchen and begin to live real life. You’re afraid that your wife will think that you are mean and hurtful if you are truthful about your emotions. You know she is supportive, but wonder just how much she can stand. You are afraid that if you begin to get help that your career could be in jeopardy or your family. But you are also afraid that if you don’t stop things will escalate and you could find yourself in some real trouble.

There is hope and you don’t have to be stuck like this forever. You had a great sobriety streak going and you can do it again. I know you felt great when you were sober. Things were going well with your wife. You hit a bump in the road, but that doesn’t have to mean that you can’t get back on track. You can do this.


Letter from my sex addict:


I need help. I’m scared that I can’t stop. I don’t want to act out, but when those urges strike, it’s like I have no choice. I want to do better, but I can’t seem to help myself. I don’t want to go on like this. Please help.