Dear Sex Addict,

I am writing to tell you that I hate you. I hate how you have affected me. I hate how you continue to affect me. I hate how you control me. I hate how you define me. I hate that you always seek the worst for me. I hate that you affect how I relate to God. I hate that recently you have monopolised me and that I can’t ever think soberly without you affecting my judgement. I hate that you affect my view of women. I hate how you have distorted my view of sex. I hate that you take away time which I could be using for much greater things.


I have had enough of you and your evil ways. I don’t want you to ever control me again.

I know I have said before that I don’t like you and don’t want you to do what you are doing but this is stronger. This is as strong as it can be. I hate you and don’t ever want to see you again.


You might think “What is this one boy going to do to overcome me?” but I am not alone. I have a family who love me and friends who care for me. I have brothers and sisters in Christ who have my back. I have a brother in Graham who has helped me before and will never fail me. And I have a friend and flatmate in Simon who knows this battle, wants me to succeed and will help me on the way. But most importantly I have The God who created the Heavens and the Earth, The Lord of Lords, The Kind of Kings, The Slayer of Death, The Conqueror of Evil, The Lord of Heavens Armies and The Spirit of the Living God on my side. He will never fail me and He will never stop loving me. Nothing you can do will ever stop that. He has made me a victor. “…for we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation [(not you)] will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” [Romans 8:37-39]


He doesn’t stop there but he gives me His Holy Armour to fight you and His Holy Spirit to guide me and protect me. And He gives me His grace and love which I continue to need because, and in spite, of you.

You might think “Ah right, all is well and good saying that but I’ve still got grips on you and ways to get you.” But I commit myself to being aware, to actively finding these attachments and to fight them. I also commit to:
a) Waking up and devoting the day to God in prayer and daily devotion.
b) Regularly seeking God’s help against you through the day.
c) Going to bed in prayer with God.
d) Read the rest of “Captured by a better vision” within the next 30 days.
e) Telling my brothers in Christ Graham and Simon about this letter and commitment.

No matter what you do, even if you manage to take control of me again, however briefly or extensively, you will not win this war. I will not let you and nor will my God and Father.

Not yours anymore,

Sober-minded Me – A Son of God


Dear Sex Addict,

I am writing to tell you that my son is no longer going to:
a) Be you
b) Be controlled by you
c) Be defined by you

Over many years you have taken over his life. You have become part of who he is. You gradually and inconspicuously worked your way in and infiltrated his thoughts, his mind and his actions. You changed his view of women and how he thought of his sisters in the faith. You have distorted his view of sex and taken away the sacredness of sex. You have begun to make him numb to what he sees. And not just that but you are making him numb to all he does. At first you took control of him for a couple of minutes at a time, then for an hour or so but more recently you’ve been leading him on for days. You make him impatient, unloving, uncaring, unkind, lacking emotion, numb and lack joy. You bring out the worst in him and you make his life miserable. You have done enough.

He has decided that you will rule him no more. He has decided he will not be your slave but be my slave because he knows that as your slave you bring disgust, sadness, bitterness, destruction, numbness and death but as my slave I give him joy, freedom, fulfilment, purpose and life.

He is weak. He is very weak. You know this almost as well as I do. He has lost his self-control. He has lost any resistance to you and your ways. He has lost his ability to get his back to me and fight you off. I mean he had even lost his awareness of the extent of the great impact you were having on him.

But I Am not weak. I Am strong. I Am not unaware of you and your impact on him. I Am not unable to fight you off. I Am not unable to defeat you. And he knows that. More and more he becomes aware of that despite you trying your best to make him forget. He is learning that I Am the answer, I Am the solution. So don’t you think that you can still control him through his weakness because it is the fact that he knows he is weak and trusts in my strength that give him power, that gives him my strength.

He is my child and you cannot have him. I will protect him and challenge him and help him grow into the man that I want of him. I will not leave him in the wilderness for eternity but will bring him back into lush meadows where you will no longer exist.

My son has great hope in me and I have my son’s back.

His Father, I Am.