I can’t tell you how many times I have spoken to men who say “yeah, I look at porn but I don’t think I have a problem.” To them pornography and masturbation are something all men do and therefore not a big deal. What they fail to understand is that their engaging in pornography damages others as well as themselves.
So how do you know if you have a serious porn problem that requires professional help? Here are just three examples.
1. Your wife says she’s upset and you still use.
If you are getting pushback from your spouse about your pornography use, but you continue to use it despite knowing the pain it causes, then you need to see a counselor. It is obvious your need and desire for pornography and masturbation is clouding your ability to see and address her emotional pain. “If she’s upset with porn that’s her problem not mine,” is something
I have heard on numerous occasions from men attempting to justify their actions. Nice attitude to have toward someone you supposedly love! A professional counselor will help you get out of your own head and focus more on addressing the pain your wife feels.
Be advised: if you find yourself in this position, then your marriage may be in serious trouble.
[shortcode-variables slug=”mypilgrimage-inline”]2. You would rather spend time with porn than people.
If your predominant thoughts when at work, school, or church are centered on pornography; or you find yourself preferring to sit home and watch porn rather than be with friends and family, then you need help from a professional counselor.
Obsessive sexual thoughts centered on porn images captured by your brain or an anxiousness in wanting to get to your next opportunity to view porn are key issues that can be addressed with the help of a competent mental health professional.
Whether you’re aware of it or not, your obsession with porn cripples your ability to connect emotionally with others, which will result in missing numerous opportunities that would bring you a sense of joy and fulfillment.
3. Porn/masturbation is hampering your sex life.
It is not unusual for men who engage in chronic pornography/masturbation to suffer from various sexual dysfunctions including: erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, and leaky erections. Some men must engage in sexual fantasy by replaying pornographic images in their mind in order to become and stay aroused when having sex with their partner.
A counselor or coach can help in the process of rebooting the brain in order to assist you in having a healthy sex life.[shortcode-variables slug=”x3-coach-bottom-ad”]