Watching sports does not make you an All-Star at playing sports. I have played some form of hockey (Floor, roller and ice) since five. Watching hockey does not make you a great player, just like any sport. You can watch the New York Giants and still not be able to throw a football like Eli Manning. I once played a hockey game in a rec league. We had some people that never played organized hockey before. We once played a game and lost 3-2. When we were back in the locker room, one of the great players was trying to tell a rookie how to play a certain type of defense. It was not received well. The guy got ticked and said, “Hey man! Don’t tell me what to do, I watch the Red Wings (Detroit) and know about hockey!” It kept all the strength in my body not to crack up laughing.
Just because you watch something does not mean you are any good at it. The same could be said about porn. Watching porn does not mean you are going to be any good at sex. For some it can have the opposite effect. When I was still struggling with my faith and coming into a relationship with my wife, I thought porn would teach me about sex. I would feel more comfortable when it actually happened. While I did learn some stuff, it did not outweigh the negative.
Once I had sex I realized how different the sex on the screen was with real sex. I was a beginner watching people that have done this a long time.
I felt more inadequate with this. It took a loving partner, listening to her needs that made sex better and more enjoyable for us. Porn almost ruined something that God gave us as a benefit. My wife was the one that gave me confidence not porn.
I am left to wonder how good sex would be if we were able to explore sex between us instead of having some unrealistic expectations of what sex looked like in a movie. Watching porn did not make me feel better about having sex and created some inadequacies. What about you?
Do you think porn makes people more confident or more insecure?