If you want to overcome sexual addiction, just as with any other addiction, you must be proactive about it. Resources abound everywhere offering help. Jesus, prayer, people in church, ministries like xxxchurch, etc..
I use multiple things to resist the temptation of falling back into porn addiction. First and foremost, Jesus has to be your help. Matthew 19:26, speaking of who can be saved, Jesus said, “With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” And again, Philippians 4:13 says this, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthen’s me.”
It wasn’t until I rediscovered God last year that I began to have victory in this spiritual warfare for my heart. Now I know not everyone is a believer. All I can do is tell you what God has done for me and let Him do the rest. But as men, we are called by God to be leaders. And I couldn’t be a very good leader stuck in this addiction and without god.
I fessed up to my wife about it almost a few years ago now. She has been my accountability partner. You have to want to give this addiction up though. I tried the accountability partner thing with other people and it didn’t do much good because, deep down, I just didn’t want to give it up.
I downloaded x3watch onto my computer. This is a big help. Knowing that my wife will see my history if I were to look up something bad helps me to stay away from the dark side of the internet. I also downloaded x3watch onto my phone. It was the agreement that if I got a smart phone, I would put x3watch on it. It keeps track of my browsing history as well as what apps I download and sends regular emails to my wife.
Another important thing to remember when fighting this addiction: don’t be alone with internet access, unless absolutely necessary. Matthew 5:30 says, “And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.” Putting yourself needlessly in this situation is putting yourself in the devil’s playground. And it certainly doesn’t help if you’re tired and/or sick on top of that. When you’re tired or sick, you don’t have as much drive to combat this addiction and you may not feel like taking the problem to God because you’re not in the best shape when tired or sick.
And lately I’ve felt God calling me to share my testimony. Though I haven’t done this extensively, it does help. You don’t have to stand in front of a large group of people to do this either. But when you tell others what God has done for you, they are blessed and so are you. It makes you think of how good God is. It reminds you of the power of God. We serve a big God who can do mighty things.
I leave you with this verse from Jude 1:24. “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy…”