I have spent the last few years trying to help porn addicts and those in the porn and sex industry. The more I am around the industry the more I see the damage that is done. I literally just got back home from Exxxotica NJ and met people from all walks of life. I heard everything from “I don’t want to stop looking at porn” to a guys wife saying that “I didn’t want to come I just did it for him”. I am willing to bet all I have that that relationship wont last long. Porn doesn’t care if you are a Christian or a Buddhist. It does not care if you are black or white, skinny or fat, rich or poor. Porn does not discriminate. Is porn really destructive? The answer is “YES” !
Porn sites routinely link viewers to all kinds of sexual behavior, such as bondage,rape, swingers you name it you can find it. Now the viewers exposure to these themes naturally increase the chances of doing what they see. This may cause porn viewers to find t it difficult to enjoy true intimacy with their spouse when they’re fantasizing about somebody else! Additionally, porn builds an unrealistic perception of sexual relations. Porn sex is made for the viewer’s enjoyment. It takes what God intended as a private expression of love between a husband and wife and prostitutes it for entertainment. This has me thinking about the guys wife who said “I just did it for him”. I am sure his and her value of sex has been downgraded. I can only image what he has her do for him. I recently read an article where a women was talking about porn in their relationship. She said “I’m totally fine with porn. I think it’s fun, I look at it, my boyfriend looks at it.” Half an hour into our phone conversation, she tells me that her boyfriend and she do not have good sex, that this is the first time she’s had a bad sexual relationship, that he looks at porn all the time, and that now she’s considering getting breast implants. This is someone who seemed very bright and cheery about pornography, but if you scratch beneath the surface, you find out that’s not at all the case. The article continued to interview Pamela Paul who conducted research on the destruction of porn and she said “I don’t consider myself a naïve person but, I was shocked by the fact that so many men and women say that porn can help people sexually, that it helps them open up, that it’s fun and harmless, but at the same time men who were fans of pornography were reporting that their sex lives were damaged. They had trouble maintaining erections, they were having trouble having intercourse with their wives, they simply couldn’t enjoy real human sexuality any more. These men had programmed themselves to only sexually cue to computerized, commercialized pornography. Pamela closed her interview by saying that ” People need to know that pornography is not harmless entertainment. They need to hear that from the people who know it best–the people who use pornography. Cigarettes were once extolled by doctors and glamorized in the movies. Cigarette smoking was something to aspire to. We’ve gotten to that point with pornography. But once people know that cigarette smoking isn’t very good for you, the consumption started to decline. My hope would be that that would happen with pornography.”
I want to leave you with a few verses out of Galations(The Message)Chapter 5
16-18My counsel is this: Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit. Then you won’t feed the compulsions of selfishness. For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with selfishness. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day. Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence?
19-21It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on. This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know.
STEVE-OH
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