I’m an engineer so I understand design for purpose. Part of my job is to check the operator’s manuals that are written for the products I design. Man, is that boring! When I am not falling asleep I am thinking what a waste of time this is because people don’t read these manuals anyway. I know this because another part of my job is to investigate accidents where people were using the products for the wrong purpose either out of ignorance (remember, they don’t read the instructions) or out of arrogance, thinking they know better than the designer what this thing is good for. That is when people die.
Does God feel as annoyed and frustrated as I do when people use His gift of sexuality for the wrong purposes or in the wrong way? Lots of people have lots of ideas about what our sexuality is for. Most of these ideas are VERY selfish. Do we really think that God didn’t know what He was doing when He made us sexual beings? Do we think that He gave us some rules about sexuality because He didn’t know what He was doing?
Mankind has invented all sorts of toys, accessories, and tools to heighten one’s sexual pleasure. Many of these accomplish their purpose for the sake of one person at the expense or to the harm of another person. Some are even designed to cut out the other person all together, totally selfish. The pursuit of these kinds of add-ons to God’s design leads down a road toward perversion and slavery that wrecks lives. When you get in this “vehicle” with the stranger who is driving it you are putting your life into the hands of an enemy. He promises to satisfy your every need but he intends to kill you. The more shameful, harmful, and illegal stuff he can get you into, the more power and control he has over you and the closer you are to death.
We are designed for relationship. The less personal and relational our sexual life is, the farther we move from our design. The value of anything is tied to its purpose. The purpose of anything is tied to its design which comes from its designer. The less personal and relational our sexual life is, the less we are valued and the less we value ourselves.
Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Philippians 2:3-5