Recently my wife asked me “why do men stare at our boobs”? I really didn’t know what to say. I went with the you know are visual by nature line. She agreed then went on to tell me how recently she has noticed men staring at her chest while she is having a conversation with them. She went on to tell me that one dude during their entire talk never looked her in the eyes. My wife told me not only does this happen at work but at church as well. I have seen this first hand when I introduced my wife to a co-worker. He shook her hand and talked to her chest. After we were finished talking I asked her if she noticed it and her response was “a blind man could have seen him looking”. We turn into little boys. Its like you are staring at a bike or bb gun you wanted as a child. I hate the saying boys will be boys but it appears to be true.
I know in the past that I have been guilty of “the stare” a time or two. Now its gone. I am not going to lie and say when I see an attractive women I don’t look. The difference is I don’t stare and gawk. When I have a conversation with a lady I look her in the eyes and let her know I am listening to what she has to say. I have heard women say that when a guy is staring at her chest she feels like he is not listening to what she has to say. I have to say she is right. Lets be honest if you are caught up in “the stare” then you are more than likely lusting.
The roots of lust run so deep that it is almost instinctive. And once we begin to fulfill our own lusts, a vicious cycle begins. Lust leads to sin. Sin breaks our relationship with God .We become numb to lust’s impact, so we think we can lust even more. Lust has been with mankind throughout history. In fact, at the creation of the world, God met Adam and Eve’s basic needs for food, companionship and protection. Yet He put one thing out of their reach to test their love for Him – the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Gen. 2:16-17). Due to our fallen nature, we will have to deal with lust until we die. The temptation to lust will come in many forms. There are external lusts, including our sexual appetites and overindulgence in food and drink; and there are internal lusts, such as the lust of power, fame or position.
We must rely on the power of the Holy Spirit inside us to overcome lust every day. “Let the Lord Jesus Christ be as near to you as the clothes you wear. Then you won’t try to satisfy your selfish desires”. No matter the form of lust we face, we must know that we have an Advocate who “understands every weakness of ours” and “was tempted in every way that we are. But He did not sin” (Heb. 4:15). Jesus is not a distant God who is looking to judge you, He is your friend, and he loves you.
Remember next time you are talking with a lady don’t allow your eyes to fixate on her chest. Focus on what she has to say and don’t make her feel like a piece of meat. I urge you to STOP THE STARE!
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