What’s in it for me? We can focus on the me factor. The world centers around me.

Companies start to advertise this way, “Have it your way,” “The customer is always right,” and “Made to order.” When we don’t get things our way, we complain, get angry and voice displeasure.

One thing I can’t stand, mayo. I can’t believe people eat this. It’s so disgusting to me that if a mistake is made, I just can’t eat it and take it back, I am not a jerk about this, but can’t stand mayo.

What if we did this in the bedroom?

We can get demanding and ask things that are for our desires. My wife and I have always had a good sex life, we weren’t afraid to experiment.

At the time we didn’t see anything wrong with looking at porn and different methods of sex. We were starting into sex one night and she was really into it. I asked her to stop what she was doing and ask if she could give me oral while we have porn on. She originally had a puzzled look on her face but she went along with it. I didn’t pick up on anything wrong, we went along and had sex.

I notice she was not being her normal self and asked up what was going on. She finally said, “I think porn is becoming a problem for us.” I scoffed at the comment. It was something we both enjoyed and were into.

What changed?

She said the fact we were about to have sex and instead we had to turn on porn, she said it made her feel like she wasn’t enough and this was a problem for her. God gave us something pure and great in the form of sex, we took it to a spot we shouldn’t have gone.

This is where porn started to come between us. My wife realized the problem, I did not. I did something she didn’t want to do and her self image took a major hit. She was not enough for me.

My actions affected the person I cared the most about. We can think just about ourselves and don’t really care about the damage that creates to others until later. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future and not make the mistakes that happened.

Who are you going to be today?

Is it all about you or pleasing the ones you love?