The only way we can ever make a choice for Godly sex is first to understand what God’s design for sex is. To tackle this we first have to admit that we are sexual beings. God created us as physical,mental,spiritual, and sexual beings. This means that sexual expression in a God honoring way is not only good but part of God’s plan. After all sex was created before the fall. Genesis 1:22 And God blessed them, saying, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on the earth.”
God Created sex for 2 major reasons:
The first is to perpetuate intimacy. Sex can be a very intimate and deeply satisfying act. God wants us to have sex inside of marriage because it leads to a stronger marriage, creates intimacy and keeps us from sin. 1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Marriages that have healthy sex lives are usually marriages that will last. A sense of deep intimacy will carry over into other avenues of your life from dealing with conflict to making wise choices to raising kids.
The second thing that God designed Sex for is worship. We don’t always view sex this way but I believe if we did that we would have a better view of not only sex but of God. We were created to worship and it is why sex can so easily lead us astray. Satan likes nothing more than to use those God honoring traits for destruction. Every time we have sex we are tapping into the sexual side of our being that God created.
Knowing that God created sex for intimacy and worship we can start to look at how to make Godly choices and this leads us to 2 thoughts.
1.Sex changes everything!!
Sex is created for marriage and when we engage in sex outside of marriage we find that we are becoming one with someone in a spiritual and sexual nature. When or if this doesn’t work out it is devastating. The separation can be like trying to rip flesh apart.This is why Paul speaks about this in 1 Corinthians 6:16-17 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” 17But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. The act of sex outside of marriage can be devastating but inside of marriage it can strengthen and support. We also see the second part of making godly is knowing this
2.Sex is not a solo sport!!
Intimacy is not created by or for ourselves. Any time we engage in sex as a solo sport we end up destroying intimacy. Whether its pornography, masturbation, or romance novels its all about living in a fantasy world. These fantasies end up removing intimacy from the marriage. This has an opposite affect than what we desire. We are left with a feeling of emptiness, guilt or shame. This in turn drives us right back into the same behaviors we just left looking for fulfillment and finding none.
Making Godly choices are not easy and usually not cut and dry but armed with the idea that we should keep sex inside of a marriage and keep it from being a solo sport is a great start.