Over the years, I have blessed by learning from a great number of “men and women of faith”, who have helped shape the way I approach life and ministry. One of these men is Jim Burns, a speaker and author, and all the time pastor, whose life is seemingly overflowing with wisdom, especially pertaining to marriage, family and culture. Earlier this week, I read a blog post by him and thought I would share it on here and perhaps start yet another conversation that needs to be spoken on.

 

Pornography, perhaps more than any other issue of today’s culture, has the greatest chance of bringing down the morals and values of this generation. Studies tell us that the greatest new users of pornography are 12- to 17-year-old boys. The girls, however, are catching up. All the while, the multi-billion-dollar pornography industry is reaching into the souls of this generation and wreaking havoc. It powerful enough to snatch any kid in any house today.

A 13-year-old boy at our church was looking for a new baseball glove online. A large sporting-good chain in our area is called Chicks Sporting Goods. We all call it “Chicks” for short. He innocently typed the word “chicks” into a search engine, thinking he was going to find the store’s new baseball glove collection. What he found was pornography sites, and plenty of them. His first exposure to porn took him on a journey that caused him to daily, sometimes for hours at a time, look at awful porn. This was a good kid, from a strong family, with high morals, and he just got caught in the maze of porn addiction. When the family found out (they began to suspect something when he was on the computer in the middle of the night and his grades were dropping), they did the right thing and got their son help. However, that young boy will have thousands of vivid images stored in his brain and subconscious.

One of the many problems of viewing pornography is that your mind takes a picture of the image. And sadly, millions of young people today have very inappropriate images stored in their minds. Pornography is extremely addicting, and for many it can escalate. Here are the stages of pornography addiction progression:

1. Viewing pornography

2. Addiction

3. Escalation

4. Desensitization

5. Action out sexually

In today’s world, kids cannot help but see very unhealthy sexual images. As youth workers, you can help kids see the negative consequences of viewing pornography.

Information on the effects of porn is very prevalent today. I don’t need to add much more on the subject, especially when you can find great resources if you are looking for this kind of information. Needless to say, pornography is fantasy. Fantasy and pornography are closely related links to sexual addiction. Pornography is a tool for going beyond reality, and once used, it is difficult to live without. Sadly, sexual addiction among young people is growing and for many, it becomes a strong obsessive compulsion similar to the intensity of alcohol, drug, and gambling addictions. Sexual addiction breaks families apart, causes people to view the opposite sex as objects, and tears at the very moral fiber of really good people. That’s why as youth workers, we must sound the alarm with our kids about pornography, clearly communicating to them about its dangers.

– Jim Burns, original article

Shoot some thoughts up on here, bringing on your own life experiences and the conversations that are ongoing in your ministry.