If ‘adult’ is equated with ‘mature’, and ‘mature’ equates to ‘old enough to know better,’ or ‘responsible and sensible’, then what adult would want to watch such a film? Many of you know that I am a ‘recovering porn addict.’ I know what damage I did to my soul and my marriage by exposing (pun intended) myself to these pieces of toxic waste. The demand is great for such product as this…far greater now than when Marilyn Chambers made her debut. (yes, I did see her film. Unfortunately.)
People. if any one reading this is into porn, I have something to say to you. I was there for 25+ years. I am not going to slam a Bible on your head and pronounce damnation on your head, although I could show you passages which indicate God ain’t too happy with it. I want to tell you in no uncertain terms that this stuff is poison. Poisonous to your mind. Poisonous to your relationships, whether you are married or not. Poisonous to your view of the opposite sex (or even the same sex…been there, done that too.) It corrodes your ability to have and enjoy intimacy…not just physical intimacy, but emotional, conversational, relational intimacy. After viewing or reading it, every single time you attempt to engage in an intimate moment (with or without clothing), a little of your capacity to be intimate is eaten away. Eventually, you find yourself unable to become close to anyone without having a sexual thought or impulse pounce on you.
I poisoned my life and my marriage with this stuff. I gave my bride a taste of it, and she went and did exactly what I was doing. This stuff is contagious. Kill it. Kill it now.
If we reduce the demand for this toxin, the supply will shrink as well. And how many more Marilyn Chambers-wannabes will be spared a miserable life?
BIG recommendation if you’re into books: ‘The Dirty Little Secret’ by Craig Gross, founder of xxxchurch.com . Take a look at the unairbrushed underbelly of porn, warts and all. If you aren’t sick now, you will be when you finish.
I wouldn’t be a ministerial student if I didn’t include at least a LITTLE Scripture…Jesus said if we even lust, that’s the same as actually engaging in adultery. Adulterers are listed in several lists of people that won’t get into Heaven. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 is my favorite list:
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
I am batting 9 for 10 in that list. But there’s hope! Read verse 11:
Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
It’s possible to be cleaned of this scourge. Jesus can remove this toxin…and any others as well. I’m proof that he can do it.
I don’t know where Miss Chambers stood with the Lord, but there are many others out there in her shoes who need to make that decision. Pray for them. Pray for all the victims of porn….the husbands who swallow a little, then a little more, then eventually the whole thing until they have to get more and more to satisfy; the wives who struggle with the loss of their husbands to an airbrushed impossibility; the women who, faced with hunger or loneliness, are lured into this trap with seemingly no way out; the purveyors of these poisons, who may or may not realize what their product is doing to countless millions; the young man or woman who stumbles onto something during an innocent Google search and now can’t get away from it; and many more. our God is big enough to handle this. Dare we ask Him to?