There are some many other things I would rather do then laundry. I know I am going to get some flak for this but I am so grateful my wife does the laundry. When I was single I did, put the dirty clothes in the dryer with dryer sheet to make the smell go away style of laundry and only did laundry in times of desperation i.e.; empty sock and underwear draw or when the smell from the laundry pile became noticeable.
I know I am not the only one who feels this way about doing laundry and pretty sure I’m not alone in my dryer sheet style of doing laundry.
The thing is, is that when I look back on my past this is the approach I took in most areas of my life; I just put things off until a time of desperation set in and then out of a sense of urgency addressed the issue.
The problem with having a huge pile of dirty laundry sitting around is that it starts to stink. But we become immune to the smell and it isn’t till someone notices the smell or it gets so bad that we notice it ourselves do we actually do something about it.
I can say the same thing about my porn addiction. It wasn’t until someone else noticed it (my wife) and pointed it out did I do anything about it.
I used the old adage, “It’s not like I’m hurting anyone.”
All the while my wife was sitting around in my pile of “dirty laundry” and it was starting to stink.
The bills were piling up and no money to pay them. Our house was in shambles but I was to busy acting out to see our care about the condition of our home. Our cars need to be serviced, needed new tires and they looked like they had never been washed our life was a mess but I became immune to our problems, straight out I just didn’t care.
“How long will you lie there, O sluggard? When will you arise from your sleep? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.” Proverbs 6:9-11 (ESV)
When I was a kid whenever I would get in trouble my mom would make me read the book of Proverbs. After my wife and I first separated, after my porn addiction was brought to light that’s the first thing I did, I read through the book of Proverbs. I found this Bible I had gotten at summer camp as a Kid and I read through the book of Proverbs and I came across this verse and it hit me like a 2×4 to the back of the head. I was the sluggard and poverty had come upon me and for the first time in my life I realized that I was hurting someone and I had hurt many people through out my life because of my addiction to porn.
I new from that point forward I had to live in reality about my porn addiction and stop being in denial about the affects it had on other people’s lives.
I knew I had to get rid of the stink in my life it was time from me to do my “dirty laundry.”
“My guilt overwhelms me— it is a burden too heavy to bear. My wounds fester and stink because of my foolish sins. I am bent over and racked with pain. All day long I walk around filled with grief.” Psalm 38:4-6 (NLT)