Today I wanted to share some intimacy builders for you and your spouse.
Marsha and I have a unique week. Our kids are with their grandparents all week. It is very unusual for us, but very exciting! We are using this time for intimacy building.
DEFINITION OF INTIMACY
To a sexual addict, intimacy only means one thing… SEX! But true intimacy is “knowing someone deeply and being known by them deeply”. It is knowing each other.
Marsha and I did a very poor job of knowing each other during the first 11 years of our marriage. We made a lot of things work. But our lives were still filled with hidden parts, and my growing secret addiction.
FOUR THINGS THAT ARE HELPING US WITH OUR INTIMACY THIS WEEK
FACE TIME – We are making an extra effort this week to be around each other. Face time. Hanging out. Running errands together. Sitting on the couch together. Being in the same room. We have both cleared our calendars out to make sure that we don’t have anything in the evenings.
QUIET TIME – Why is it that we have to schedule in our calendars to be quiet? But living today is loud. Living with kids is loud. We are making intentional efforts this week to be quiet. Some of our quiet time is to reconnect with God. Some is to rest. Some is to just enjoy being around one another.
DATE TIME – A different type of hangout time. What can we do that’s out of the ordinary? What can we do that’s special? For us it’s going out to eat, walking in a mall or making a movie run.
BED TIME – No details here (sorry).
Jeff & Marsha are an amazing couple who have been through the fight for their marriage because of pornography. They now run a ministry called Porn To Purity which has helped many people and even more couples reunite their relationships.