I’ve rented two movies over the last week or so. We were fairly disappointed because both of them included infidelity. And it’s not just because we hate infidelity (which we do) and hate how it hurts the heart of God (which it does) and hate how it ruins marriages (which it has). We hate how it is glamorized by film makers. Very sad.

I’ve always been disturbed when I hear someone say about his/her spouse, “I’m just not in love anymore.” Since when is marriage always a feel good thing? Ask anyone who has been married if they live in a fairy tale world where they always feel in love. Feelings are so incredibly misleading.

You know what I think? (This is where you say, “yes”.) I think that we are in love with what we pour into and what we concentrate on and what we create. If you start to pay attention to the next looker who walks by, you’ll be doing that for the rest of your life. Hear me…There will always be good lookin’ people around you. Period. Get used to it and walk away. If you wanna be in love with your spouse, pour into him, concentrate on her and create new memories and habits that will bring joy for years to come.

Moral of the story? If you find yourself thinking the grass is greener on the other side, don’t move. Just water your own yard.

I’m just sayin’.

You can find Cindy’s book Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken here. If you as a wife are working on healing from your husbands struggle with sexual sin this is an amazing book to pick up.