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If you got to this particular page of our site, then you’re probably one of two kinds of people: you’re either looking for some rationalization as to why masturbation is okay or you can’t help yourself and you feel like crap. Either way, we have answers for you.
If you’re the first kind, then here’s our official stance on the touchy subject of masturbation: we have a “hands-off” approach – pun intended. The topic of masturbation is highly debated. Some say it’s always bad. Some say it’s fine in certain contexts (like couples in marriage), and some say it’s part of “healthy” sexuality.
Maybe you are single and you feel like masturbation is your only outlet for sex. Or, maybe your marriage has become virtually sexless and masturbation seems like the only reasonable answer. It’s even possible that your spouse or partner has given you their blessing because they don’t want to do the actual “work.” But, if you are here because you can’t stop doing it then it’s safe to say that things have evolved to an unhealthy level.
Anything can become compulsive, even addictive. When a sexual behavior like masturbation reaches this level it can have very unhealthy consequences on your life and your relationships.
Realize that sex is meant to be shared with another person. Sex is not about pleasing ourselves. It is not just a form of physical gratification. Sex is a real part of building physical intimacy. It’s about sharing yourself with another person whom you are spiritually and emotionally connected to (like your spouse).
Masturbation takes the focus of sex off of intimacy and puts it on pleasure. Masturbation is about pleasing me. Sex is not about that. Sex is about connection.
When masturbation becomes compulsive not only does it completely lose focus on the intimate purposes of sex but it also becomes a form of self-medication. It turns into an “escape.” This is where compulsion transitions into addiction.
If you think you might have a legit problem – like to the point where you might be addicted – then please take this addiction test and find out for sure. It only takes a few minutes and it’ll give you real answers you can plan with.
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