Back with our 26 Principles to Battle Porn blog series from Jay Dennis! If you haven’t had a chance to check out the previous post, read here!
It’s been awesome seeing all the of the feedback about how these tips/action steps have been affecting your lives… keep the comments coming!
Here are 2 more awesome, practical steps:
Install Internet Filtering to Block Sexually Inappropriate Material and Accountability Software to Report any Sites you Visit that are Sexually Inappropriate on All your Computers.
You need both filtering and accountability technology.
Accountability and Monitoring Software:
Unlike filtering, accountability software simply reports on Internet usage. No blocking occurs. In setting it up, you decide who will receive the detailed report of the computer’s usage. Web sites that are deemed inappropriate, based on the options you’ve chosen, will be red-flagged. Because monitoring software is of value only “after the fact”, it is not recommend as a solution for families with children. However, it can be an effective aid in personal accountability for adults.
Client Internet Filtering and Parental Control Software:
Safe Eyes- http://www.internetsafety.com
Scriptural Basis:
I Thessalonians 4:3-5
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;
that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,
not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God.”
JOIN A Recovery Group Now! You Will Not Get Better By Yourself. No One Recovers Alone.
Twelve-Step Groups:
Dr. Mark Laaser in his book Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction shares great information on specific recovery groups. Each of these fellowships may have meetings in your area. Call to receive meeting information or to find contacts in your area. Each fellowship varies slightly in meeting format or philosophy. One main difference might be how sobriety is defined. For example, Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) has, at least historically, had the strictest definition and the one that most Christians would be comfortable with. SA says that sobriety is sexual abstinence from any sexual activity except with one’s spouse. However, even these distinctions might vary from town to town, as each meeting is an autonomous local fellowship. Be aware that telephone numbers and addresses change over time. Be persistent in getting the information you need.
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
P.O. Box 11910
Nashville, TN 37222-1910
615-331-6230
www.sa.org
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
P.O. Box 70949
Houston, TX 77270
713-869-4902
www.sexaa.org
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
P.O. Box 338
Norword, MA 02062-0338
781-255-8825
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
AA World Services, Inc.
P.O. Box 459
Grand Central Station
New York, NY 10163
212-870-3400
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org
Christian Support Groups
Over the years I have seen many ministries establish support groups that in some ways follow the principles of the Twelve Steps, but which also honor Christ as the center of healing. Some may be found through the organizations and websites listed above. I have had the privilege of writing the materials for one. L.I.F.E. (Living in Freedom Everyday) Ministries. They have developed materials for male sex addicts, female sex addicts, spouses, couples, and teens. Their contact information is:
Celebrate Recovery
Email address: [email protected]
www.celebraterecovery.com
L.I.F.E. Ministries
P.O. Box 952317
Lake Mary, FL 32795
407-647-9560
For Co-Addicts
S-Anon Internationals Family Groups (S-Anon)
P.O. Box 111242
Nashville, TN 37222-1242
615-833-3152
www.sanon.org
Codependents of Sex Addicts (COSA)
P.O. Box 14537
Minneapolis, MN 55414
763-537-6904
www.cosa-recovery.org
Al-Anon
Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
1600 Corporate Landing Parkway
Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617
888-425-2666
www.al-anon.org
Codependents Anonymous (CODA)
P.O. Box 33577
Phoenix, AZ 85067-3577
602-277-7991
www.copedentends.org
For Couples
Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA)
P.O. Box 11029
Oakland, CA 94611
510-663-2312
www.recovering-couples.org
For Trauma Survivors
Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA)
World Service Office
P.O. Box 190
Benson, MD 21018
410-893-3322
www.siawso.org
Incest Survivors Anonymous (ISA)
P.O. Box 17245
Long Beach, CA 90807
562-428-5599
Adult Children of Alcoholics
World Service Organization, Inc.
P.O. Box 3216
Torrance, CA 90510
310-534-1815
www.adultchildren.org
Scriptural Basis:
II Corinthians 1:3-4
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,
who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”
James 5:16
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.”