Last week I did three Porn Debates with Ron Jeremy. Ohio State, Bowling Green and Rowan University. We also did two churhes and a Porn and Pancakes at Mars Hill. Good week. Just saw this article online that was written after the Bowling Green Debate. Enjoy. Craig


Potential problems porn perpetuates in a committed relationship
By: Emily Rippe

In case you haven’t heard, celebrity porn star Ron Jeremy and pastor/anti-porn activist Chris Gross participated earlier this week in what some of us like to refer to as “The Long, Hard Porn Debate.”


It’s a debate topic that seems to have an equal amount of supporters on both ends.Whichever side of the argument you happen to be on, there is no denying pornography is a controversial subject. Its implications on what it says about men and women are questionable. Some people hate porn because it goes against their religious beliefs. Others hate porn because it degrades women. And as Gross pointed out during the debate, women hate porn because they cannot live up to its expectations. Due to the latter issue, I am not a fan of porn.Never in my life did I picture myself agreeing with a right-winged, male, Christian fundamentalist. But as it so happens to turn out, I whole-heartedly concur with his statement, “Girls on campus can’t compete with porn.”

I found it interesting that this man, who I have absolutely nothing in common with, expressed my exact feelings toward “The Long, Hard Porn Debate.”

Now, since there were no female representatives arguing in the debate, I am going to expand on Gross’ point, from a woman’s perspective.

Porn makes me feel sufficiently inadequate. I am a petite girl with petite parts, and I happen to look nothing like a porn star. In fact, I have never seen a girl at this University look like a porn star, unless she actually was one making a speech.

At any rate, I will say that there’s no harm in acquiring pornographic items before getting involved in a relationship.

Though I never knew if he stopped looking at his collection while we dated, I told myself he did give it up in order to make me feel better. There was just no way I could compete with that.

I’ve heard the argument before, men who like to look at porn like to look at it because they know these women are unattainable. It’s fun to fantasize.
This argument is whack – no pun intended – for two reasons.

First off, why would you want to tease yourself with a dream that could never be a reality? I would think after having such high standards (gigantic fake breasts, completely bald vaginas, and really high-pitched moaning) it would be hard for a guy to settle on the average college girl. Then once you found her, she won’t be able to bend herself in the ways you’re used to seeing on television. I could actually go on and on about this, but I think you get the point, torturing yourself with a fantasy will make it hard for you to obtain a healthy relationship. I can’t possibly contemplate that as fun.

Secondly, the effect this has on women’s self-esteems is devastating. I was recently sitting in a pop culture lecture about the woman’s body portrayed in film. We were discussing society’s addiction to transforming themselves, especially women, and how this has led to an increase in plastic surgery procedures. My professor asked if any of us knew girls who have received this type of alteration, and more than half the class raised their hands.

I’m not going to blame the porn industry and men who like porn as the sole reason for women getting breast augmentations. Honestly, that is a very personal decision women do for various reasons. However, I can see how a woman dating a man who is obsessed with porn would think it might not be such a bad idea. The female body as portrayed in pornography is an instigator for making real-life women feel inadequate. Meanwhile, finding a trunk full of magazines filled with naked girls underneath your boyfriend’s bed doesn’t ease the pain, either.

I guess the bottom line is porn can only be detrimental if you hold it as a standard. Men will wait forever for a real woman to please him like that. Women will drive themselves crazy trying to be that woman.