Over the last year and a half we have been hard at work on some new XXXchurch resources. The first was a new book called Pure Eyes – A Man’s guide to Sexual Integrity. Steven Luff and I worked on that. Steven then wrote a workbook that goes along with that book and put together 15 video teachings that make up the new X3pure program.
We just launched the all new and improved X3pure site. We have three new workshops on the site and one that is coming soon for parents. I am going to post 3 blogs explaining each workshop. Head on over to X3pure to see for yourself.
X3pure is the first online, confidential, streaming-video solution for dealing with sexual addiction. This workshop provides you with the absolute fundamentals for understanding compulsive sexual behavior whether it is with masturbation, pornography use, extra-marital/pre-marital sex, strip clubs, or prostitutes. Easy to understand and accessible, this 30-day program can be logged onto from any Internet-connected computer at any time.
Developed by seminary-educated, sexual addiction group leader, and author Steven Luff, this program walks you through our “Sexual Sobriety Map” – a clear explanation of the recovery process from “unwanted sexual behavior” to the “pursuit of contentment.”
Unwanted Sexual Behavior
This two-part section provides a broad over-view of what will be accomplished throughout the program. Its ultimate destination is to answer the question, “Am I really addicted?” Central to this part is the introduction of our “Sexual Sobriety Map,” an at-a-glance tool for locating yourself throughout your recovery process and beyond.
White-Knuckle vs. Real Change
Since change is obviously at the heart of over-coming sexual addiction, the first of these two parts delves into the question “What is Change?” and provides a thorough introduction to the two types of change available for the recovering sex addict: “white-knuckle” and “real.” The cornerstone of real change, which is our goal in recovery, is confession and accountability, which is discussed in the second part of this section.
One of the least known aspects of sexual addiction is its physiology—that is, the way the brain has changed in using sex as a drug and how to we can change it back. This section has three parts detailing a portion of the brain called the reward system. These three parts cover what that system is, what happens to the reward system when it has become addicted to sex, and what it will be like changing the reward system back into its normal state.
This section addresses the very goal of this program: going sober from your unwanted sexual behavior and staying sober. There are two parts to this section that will help you in creating a victorious environment for yourself as well as building an “escape plan” for when you are triggered and want to use your unwanted sexual behavior. These two parts detail what we call our “Sobriety Sheets.”
Acceptance of Conditional Love
For the sexual addict, the root of the addiction is having experienced, or currently experiencing, conditional love. Conditional love is being loved or shown attention and affection only if a person behaves or acts a certain way. Conditional love, in all of its many forms, can cause a sense of anxiety that leads the sex addict to act out. This section helps you locate when and where conditional love exists in your life in preparation for our culminating section.
Pursuit of Unconditional Love
If conditional love is the root of sexual addiction, our goal in recovery is the conversion of conditional love into unconditional love. In four powerful parts, this section breaks down this conversion into our “Recovery Targets”: 1) Psychological Examination of Feelings; 2) Seeking, Establishing, and Engaging in Community; 3) Truth, Trust and Territory; and 4) Development and Exploration of Genuine Faith.
If you type in the word “confessions” when you check out you get $10 bucks off.