So, I was watching this clip of an interview featuring actress, Elise Neal, right? She was talking about some sex tips she got from a woman who worked in a brothel.  If you want to check out a portion of the interview, here you go:


OK…now here’s the thing. I recall what one of my male friends said about why men sleep—well, have sex with—prostitutes in the first place: “We don’t pay them for the sex. We pay them to leave.”

We pay them to leave.

I’m pretty confident that Ms. Neal wasn’t doing a PSA on why it would be a good thing to be a part of a brothel, but the reason why I’m doing on my own PSA on this is that one of the things that I’m realizing more and more is that there are not enough HAPPY, HEALTHY (and yes, what would include sexually active) MARRIED COUPLES who are speaking on the issues of intimacy.

I don’t mean putting your sex life on “front street”, but educating people appropriately about 1) why you should wait until marriage and 2) what PURITY means after marriage. Cause after all, when Hebrews 13:4 says that the marriage bed is “undefiled”…that would mean that it’s pure.

And yes, before some of you sigh at that tid bit, I find it to be a shame that a lot of people think that purity means that they have to go without pleasure, and on many levels, “custom-made to fit your specific marriage” pleasure. That couldn’t be further from the truth!

Earlier this year, I came across a website that was quite an eye-opener (yes even for me):


If you’ve never heard of it before, I’m sure for some of you, you may be freaking out just from the title alone. After all…can you really be a Christian…and a NYMPHO? Don’t be alarmed. The Bible says that people perish for a lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6) and I don’t know why we do (or should) think that makes wisdom about marital intimacy exempt…and indeed this site leaves no sheet, er, stone unturned (LOL).

As I am in my own season of “wife preparation” (and if you’re a single woman who desires to be married someday, I would advise you look at yourself in a similar fashion), the Proverbs 5 (warning about the immoral) woman has crossed my mind just as much, if not more, than the Proverbs 31 (guidelines for being virtuous) woman.  See the thing about what Elise was saying and the thing that is causing a lot of people to fall VICTIM to sexual immorality even now, is that people often see sex as just a physical act. I have quoted it on this site many times that one of my favorite Scriptures, hands down, is the Message Version of I Corinthians 6:16: There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact.”

The Bible tells us that we are the temples of the Holy Spirit (I Corinthians 6:19). THIS MEANS THAT WE ARE HOLY. THIS MEANS THAT WHAT WE DO SHOULD BE IN THE SPIRIT OF HOLINESS. One definition of “holiness” is blessedness. A series of lines in Proverbs 5 that tends to stop me in my tracts are verses 3-5:

“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life—her ways are unstable; You do not know them.”

Shoot, I don’t know about you, but this gal sounds CRAZY to me. She may do all of the tricks of a brothel chick, but shouldn’t it cause a man to “pause” that the sexual skills of a prostitute is called “trick”, anyway? TRICK OR TREAT? Is that how God wanted sex to be? Disception?

No, not at all.  I often tell the teens that I mentor that an orgasm is not the *purpose* of sex, but a *benefit*. THE PURPOSE IS ONENESS (Genesis 2:24-25) and a husband and wife should be able to enjoy the pureness of that oneness…they should both be able to walk away from sexual intimacy believing that it was a holy experience. Believing that it was a blessing.

OK. I’m done. For now (LOL). I just really get tired of the world’s foolishness speaking louder than the Lord’s wisdom (I Corinthians 3:19). Some of us get on TV…some of us speak on a blog…but we all need to use our platforms responsibly, right? RIGHT.

Oh…and by the way, if you are needing some “sexual knowledge”, you don’t need any prositute telling you how to please your man. Just ask the one who created him:

“In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”—Proverbs 3:6 (NKJV)

I don’t see any kind of “unless it’s about sex” disclaimer on there, do you?