OK…

So, I would like a bit of insight on something. I was reading an article this morning entitled, “Porn & Relationships: Men’s Pornography Use Tied To Lower Self-Esteem In Female Partners” and it pretty much touched on a lot of stuff that we’ve discussed on here before:

1) That young women with partners who frequently look at porn tend to be more unhappy in their relationships.

2) That a lot of women are insecure when it comes to porn because their bodies don’t look like the “store bought variety brand” (my quote, not theirs) that a lot of porn *actresses* have.

3) That the feelings that a lot of these women have about porn themselves ranges from “scathing to mildly positive” (their quote, not mine).

Yet, it’s this part right here that I’d like a bit of help with:

“The results showed that women who reported that their boyfriends or husbands looked at more pornography were less likely to be happy in their relationships than women who said their partners didn’t look at pornography very often. When women were bothered by their partner’s porn use, saying, for example, that they believed he was a porn addict or that he used porn more than a “normal” amount, they were also more likely to have low self-esteem and to be less satisfied with both their relationship and their sex life.”

You know, of all of the things that we’ve chatted about on here, I don’t think I’ve ever asked what I’m about to ask and I think it’s because in my “porn hay days”, I didn’t really think about frequency. Honestly, there was not one time when I would watch just one clip or “porn program” and that was enough for me. If I opened “pandora’s box”, it was going to stay opened for an hour or two at least.

So the question is this: “I know that we spend a lot of time talking about healing people from *porn addiction*, but what do you personally define *addicted* to be? Not by how it affects a person (necessarily), but when it comes to how much they watch it? In other words, when it comes to the allure and partaking of porn, is there such a thing as a ‘casual porn watcher’ and if so, how would you define that?”

Sound off…