I know, right?

It’s been almost two months since I’ve penned anything in the Butterflies blog and yes, I’ve missed you. To be honest, there was just so much going on in the latter part of the year in my own life that I needed to take some time to get myself together.

You see, while I was sharing with you revelations about porn, sex, lust, love, relationships, and what I believe God thinks about it all, I was fighting my own battle. Next week, I will be celebrating a year of abstinence—something I have never done since I started having sex in 1993.

Yes, I was raised a Christian. Yes, in 2004, I wrote a book about why it’s a good idea to actually do what God says and not (in my case) fornicate (Galatians 5:19, Ephesians 5:3, Colossians 3:5). But still, sex is something that I believe all people struggle with in some shape, form or fashion. If you’re married, you are trying to have an active, healthy sex life. If you’re single, you’re trying to have an inactive one while keeping a healthy perspective this thing known as sexuality. And yes, it really can be a tight rope (made of thread, no less) to walk and not fall off of from time-to-time. And so, I needed a little time to pull away from the “written sex world” and regroup.

I’m back now and every Friday, until, shoot, whenever, you will be getting a new message from me. Being that the this is a New Year, I’ve decided to take a slightly different approach, though. Last year revealed to me that that a lot of you have questions and so if you don’t mind sharing them with the “X3 Family”, I would actually like to post the question and the response whenever I receive an inquiry.

Now with that, let me just say this: Whether you are a follower of Christ or not, I welcome all insights/perspectives/comments, but sometimes it appears that certain readers forget that this is a ministry-based site and so, yes, I am going to use the Bible as the basis for a lot of my answers. John 8:32 says that the truth makes us free and I believe that the Bible is based in truth. If that bothers you, there’s no sense in frustrating yourself by spending precious time you will never get back just to write and tell me that. That’s the way it’s gonna be. Accept it and let’s move on.

Also, I will probably be spending more time sharing information on what I have discovered as it relates to “all things sex”. Some weeks it may be stats. Some weeks it may be a really interesting article or profound quote. But, Hosea 4:6 tells us that people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge. I have come to see firsthand that God didn’t tell us to use sex responsibly “just because”. There is safety in obedience and there is a world out there just filled with information to support this theory. Knowledge is power and we all need power to live a God-ordained sex (or sexless) life.

Also, I see that while this portion of the site was initially started for women who wanted to be freed from sexual misuse, there are a lot of men who read and comment on here as well. You are more than welcome. If you want to pick a gal’s mind (the mind being mine) on anything, please feel free.

Well, that’s about it for now. Oh, one more thing. I did actually read a comment that was in response to my last posting. I think you may get a “bonus post” over the weekend because there was something he said that got my mind racing just a bit. 🙂

In the meantime, welcome to 2008. If you didn’t know, “8” in the Hebrew symbolizes “New Beginnings” and so take this time to not focus so much on what you’ve done but what you want to do. We all have a past, but the wonderful thing is that we all have a present, too. It’s a gift. Celebrate it.

Write you soon.