Note: This was a note that I penned for a blog that I do for single women in preparation for marital covenant. I think some of you might appreciate a few things that I discovered. Please know that you all remain in my prayers…as we all continue this quest towards holistic purity. SRW


“Then the Lord God said, ‘It’s not good that man should be alone; I will make a helper who is like him.’”—Genesis 2:18 (GMLT)


Hey Ministers-in-Training,


Are you waiting to be called to a fast? ME TOO.  I thought it would’ve happened by now. I simply haven’t felt a release from the Comforter (John 14:26-AMP) yet. HOWEVER, I do have a bit of an assignment for us. You’ll need a fresh journal for it.


In my own personal quest, curiosity, desire to have a “Back to the Garden of Eden Covenant”, I have been spending quite a bit of time researching the origin of things; the original translations of Scripture…what may have been lost over time as people play, what I call, the “Scripture Gossip Game”: one person tells one thing about a verse, someone else tells another and so forth…until we end up losing clarity of what the verses of the Bible really meant.


This week, the two words that the Comforter has been having me focus on are “make” and “helper”. This is why the message is entitled in the way that it is. EZER KENEGDO (pronounced Ee-zur Ken-egg-doe/dough) are the two words in the Hebrew Language for HELP MEET; yet, my research has shown me that it’s pretty hard to directly translate. And because of that, I believe, a lot of wives (and wives in training) are not fully cognizant of the miraculous role that they are to play in their marriages.


An ‘ezer is something we all need. Yahweh ‘Ezer is Hebrew for “Lord our Helper”. That, right there, should give us a lot of peace…and clarity of purpose because the Lord basically said he would make someone, not just comparable to Adam, but also someone like the Lord himself…someone to do something similar to what he does. Have you ever looked up the kind of help that Yahweh ‘Ezer provides? You might want to do a study on it some time. I know something that I have been “on pause” about this week is how the Lord is referenced in Psalm 33:20 and 115:9-11: A HELP AND SHIELD. A shield protects, eh? Other studies stated that ‘ezer can also mean “to rescue” or “to save”. TO RESCUE AND SAVE.


Moving on…


Kenegdo? My research tells me that it basically means to be equal, counterpart or alongside.


Put these two would together and if there was a simplified way of explaining the role, it would be LIFESAVER; someone who can be alongside Adam in the role of protecting, rescuing, saving…HELPING. That would be a lifesaver, indeed.


OK. Now, we all know (or at least should) that no one is a person’s Savior but Christ. Any kind of implication of being a “human savior” is not what these two words are trying to convey…nor am I. However, based on all of this information, I do want you to take note of how POWERFUL a wife is. How PIVOTAL her role is. The PURPOSE for why she was created in the first place.


And why you need a new journal.


As I’ve been dialoguing with a lot of women, both married and single, regarding marriage, one thing that doesn’t seem to be focused on nearly as much as it should is the SPIRITUAL RESPONSIBILITY that a female covenant partner is to have. Yet, I think Ezer Kenegdo explains it brilliantly. When the Lord gave us dominion over the earth (Genesis 1:26-31), that was not just a role for Adam; that was an instruction for mankind: MAN AND WOMAN. The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, decided that it’s not “morally excellent”, “right”, “honorable”, “favorable”, “RESPONSIBLE”, “healthful”, “BENEFICIAL”, “advantageous”, “CLEVER”, “sufficient”, “financially sound or safe” (hmph), “in good standing” for a man to be alone. However, to be good for a man, you must be good for yourself (eh hem).


Hmph. No wonder King Solomon reminded us that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22). No wonder covenant marriage, the bond between a MAN and a WOMAN (Matthew 19:6) is attacked in the relentless manner that it is. Anything that’s “good” in the site of the Lord, the Liar (John 8:44) works overtime to defile. And so, with all of that said, here’s the journal project for this week:


1)  Seek the Lord on what areas you can improve as an Ezer Kenegdo. Cause the truth is, whether married or not, you are a woman. The Lord can use you to rescue, to save, to help, right now. Also, take a moment to see how you’re helping. I often say that because we’re created to help man, we’re either helping him to heaven or helping him to hell. Love is godly help. Lust is demonically-based assistance. In this life, there are wives and there are prostitutes (I Corinthians 6). Which are you?


2)  Focus on the word “make” for awhile. Some of us long to be joined to our covenant partner. Yet, because things are done decently and in order (I Corinthians 14:40), we must understand that before things can be given, they must be made. In context to this message, one definition is “preparing in a certain way”. Another (and I love this one!)? TO BE ASSURED OR CONFIDENT OF SUCCESS. One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Ecclesiastes 3:14 (NKJV): “I know that whatever God does, it shall be forever. Nothing can be added to it, and nothing taken from it. God does it, that men should fear before Him.” A covenant is certainly El Berith, the God of Covenant’s, doing. For some of us, the “delay” is that he is not yet confident of the union’s success…yet. There’s some more “making” that has to be done. Yes, I’m sure this is the case when it comes to the man and the woman, but to be honest with you, lately, at least as it relates to me, because the Bible says that the unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord so that she can be holy in body and spirit (I Corinthians 7:34), I’m not too concerned about what my future partner is doing. That’s not to be my priority right now. I want the Lord to be confident that I will be a successful woman…a successful wife will follow.


I want you to know that you all remain in my prayers. If there is something you have as a specific request, feel free to let me know. In the meantime, be anxious for nothing (Philippians 4:6-7). More and more, I’m coming to see that Elohim has things far more under control than I tend to give him credit for AND that he has more faith in me than I tend to give him credit for.


After all, he created me to be an Ezer Kenegdo. Who wouldn’t be proud of that?!?