Sometimes I run across a Scripture that I know I should probably blog on…but I end up, what I call, “bookmarking it” until I can figure out totally why.
Today, I got my “why”.
You know, Chris Rock can be…let’s say, “open” with his dialogue (LOL) and so while I will refrain from quoting him verbatim, I do recall him once saying that he didn’t understand why you would dress for a job you didn’t work. And, brilliantly (because it supports the message that I am wanting to convey today), he was referring to women who dress, let’s say…immodestly. Actually, he articulated more like so:
Prostitutes. Hookers. Harlots. Whores. Hos.
They dress to make money, right? At least traditionally, that’s what their attire was for. The clothes that they picked showed off their, eh hem, merchandise.
Yet, as I think about some of the things that I used to put on, on this side of abstinence, I can’t help but to wonder if I did it for very similar reasons. I mean, I never had sex for money…but sometimes, I wonder who’s better off: hookers or fornicators. They both are sinful (Proverbs 5, Hebrews 13:4) but at least hookers get SOMETHING for their trouble. A lot of the time, I was the one who ended up losing money (no joke) due to taking care of grown men. Head’s up: any single woman who let’s a man think that having sex with you for your birthday is a “birthday present” (crickets), IT’S NOT SUFFICIENT. He’s a cheapskate. Get out now (no joke!).
You also might want to check out one of my other blogs to see all of the synonyms of “childish”, too. It’s quite revelatory…if I do say so myself:
OK, but back to the point of THIS message. So the whole “dress for the job” thing…I’ve been really giving it some thought. The longer I am abstinent, the more I value my body and the less I want people gawking at it. I mean, WHY do I need YOU to know every curve of my body in my jeans. You ain’t gonna get what’s in ’em, so what’s the point? For you or for me?
That’s when this Scripture really began to illuminate in my psyche. Actually, it’s more like a couple of lines in a series of verses in Scripture that references false teachers:
“They are spots and blemishes, carousing in their own deceptions while they feast with you, having eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease from sin, enticing unstable souls.”—2 Peter 2:13 (NKJV)
While Christ was on the earth, he said that if a man even looks at a woman lustfully, he has committed adultery in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28)…in his innermost central being…in the center of his emotion…at the center of his total personality. THAT SHOULD BRING THE WHOLE “WATCHING PORN IS NOT AS BAD AS HAVING SEX” THEORY TO A SCREECHING HALT RIGHT THERE.
Yet, what really caught me about the 2 Peter Scripture was, “If someone’s eyes are full of adultery”, someone must be giving them something to look at. What would the world be like if we all thought about it from this perspective before walking out the door every morning?
Oh, but what really put the “robe on the lingerie” was when I read an article today about a woman by the name of Sheyla Hershey, who is currently considered to have the world’s largest breasts (38KKK) and is also experiencing a series of staph infections due to her multiple plastic surgeries.
I’ve seen a picture of her, and although she has a pretty face, that is not what I spent much time looking at, even as a heterosexual woman. I can’t speak for what her motive was in getting them (she seems to compare plastic surgery to working out?!?), but I do know that breasts are all I really noticed…and will probably be all that I really remember. If she wasn’t advertising her breasts, why get some that are so obnoxious in size and why dress to where virtually all of them are showing? Why put yourself in the position to be used by the kind of people whose “eyes are full of adultery” AND why would you cater to people with that kind of weakness? How is that helping anyone?
Oh, but the real “hook, line and sinker” is that her infections could end up costing her…not only the fake breasts, but the ones that the Lord gave her as well. In her not being at peace with being enough (lust), she could end up losing what the Lord felt was just enough (love). The legacy of having the largest breasts in the world…could end up costing Sheyla her life.
I feel her pain. The same…but differently.
How many times have I made “sexy” a priority over been “virtuous”? How many times have I “false advertised” by saying I’m a disciple, when I dress like a hooker? How many times have I wanted a MAN to approve of me more than his CREATOR? Does my flesh properly represent my spirit?
In times past, more times than not…it hasn’t. And yeah, it cost me.
Yesterday, I saw this chick with great legs. And thighs. *sigh* I can’t figure out for the life of me why parents let their daughters rock those shorts that look like panties. Nothing but her lower half caught the attention of those she walked past (IT WAS OBVIOUS) and as physically beautiful as many women are, when the Lord said that we were fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), being that God is a Spirit (John 4:24) and we are made in his image (Genesis 2:24-25), you can best believe he takes greater note (and delight) of us showing off our character than our clothes…or lack thereof.
So what motivates your wardrobe decisions? Do you dress to make money? Or do you dress to accentuate your beauty…the one that has nothing to do with bedroom activity?
Advertising is about making a buck. False advertising also comes with a price.
In what (why and where) you do it, choose wisely.
Just ask Sheyla what happens when you don’t.