“Think straight. Awaken to the holiness of life. No more playing fast and loose with resurrection facts. Ignorance of God is a luxury you can’t afford in times like these. Aren’t you embarrassed that you’ve let this kind of thing go on as long as you have?”—I Corinthians 15:34 (Message)
Your mom will always be your mom. Newsflash, right?
At 35, I am someone who is just now getting to know my mom…and she is, on a lot of levels, just now getting to know me. Lately, due to some sexual issues in her community (she lives in South Africa), we’ve been having some very frank conversations about sex.
It’s not like we didn’t talk about sexuality before. I mean, sex is what I talk about, probably, 35% of the time in some shape, form or fashion and so she stopped fighting me on it a long time ago. But these conversations are “deep throat” in the sense that sexual misuse has gotten to the point of inundating people to where they feel like they are almost gagging on it; that they can’t ignore it if they wanted to. AND WE CAN’T.
Just in the past 24 hours alone, I’ve come across two articles that made, even me, do a double take. Details Magazine has an article online entitled, “How Internet Porn Is Changing Teen Sex”. This excerpt was sobering:
“The awkward truth, according to one study, is that 90 percent of 8-to-16-year-olds have viewed pornography online. Considering the standard climax to even the most vanilla hard-core scene today, that means there is an entire generation of young people who think sex ends with a money shot to the face.”
This was a bit much, too:
“According to a study by the Centers for Disease Control, the number of heterosexuals having anal sex nationwide has almost doubled since 1992.” (If you want me to provide you with the health risks that comes with anal sex, let me know and I will hook you up.)
But it was this excerpt that really got to me:
“But boys have always been perverts. Since a facial requires a female to receive it, the real story might be the apparent surge in the number of willing participants. In Immersion: Porn, a documentary by New York photographer Robbie Cooper, 22-year-old Lindsay sees the act as empowering to women. ‘Even if she has eight dicks on her face, she’s still the queen of those eight dicks,’ she says. ‘I definitely like come on the face.'”
(Per our reader, Ron. C’s request due to where this site potentially leads, this article’s link has been pulled. You can go to www.details.com to read it “at your own risk”.)
“But boys have always been perverts.” I don’t like that line of conflicted resolve in the least. It’s like society is lying down and taking the LIE that being a boy is synonymous with being sexually deranged. Even now it seems that “boys will be boys” and girls need to tell the nasty boys “no”. Gimme a break. We are all made in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27) and man came first. The instruction to take dominion over the earth has not changed. Even with all that is going on, IT HAS NOT CHANGED. That can, and should, start with taking control of our bodies. A little boy is not a pervert. He’s a young man whose VIRGINITY IS A GIFT and should be developed as such.
But it was the rest of that that really got my blood to boiling. Lindsay—and if you used your real name, I’m halfway impressed by the boldness—a train ran in any orifice doesn’t make you a QUEEN. A queen is a wife of a king, a sovereign woman, something/one that has domain over something/someone else. A gang bang doesn’t give you power. WHO TOLD YOU THAT? (Craig, if you can find that girl for me, I would LOVE to talk to her.) Whoever did, LIED.
However, this article was mild in comparison to the article I read, that was sent to be, on Foxnews.com:
The United Nations is recommending that children as young as five receive mandatory sexual education that would teach even pre-kindergarteners about masturbation and topics like gender violence.
The UNESCO report, called “International Guidelines for Sexuality Education,” separates children into four age groups: 5-to-8-year-olds, 9-to-12-year-olds, 12-to-15-year-olds and 15-to-18-year-olds.
Under the U.N.’s voluntary sex-ed regime, kids just 5-8 years old will be told that “touching and rubbing one’s genitals is called masturbation” and that private parts “can feel pleasurable when touched by oneself.”
By the time they’re 9 years old, they’ll learn about “positive and negative effects of ‘aphrodisiacs,” and wrestle with the ideas of “homophobia, transphobia and abuse of power.”
At 12, they’ll learn the “reasons for” abortions — but they’ll already have known about their safety for three years. When they’re 15, they’ll be exposed to direct “advocacy to promote the right to and access to safe abortion.”
Child health experts say they are wary of teaching about the sticky topic of abortion, but stress that as long as messages stay age-appropriate, educating kids at a younger age helps better steer them into adulthood.
“The adults are more leery of [early sex-ed] than the kids are,” said Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, a child psychiatrist in New York. “Our own fears sometimes prevent us from being as open and honest with our kids as possible.”
Five-year-olds knowing about masturbation.
Nine-year-olds knowing about aphrodisiacs (can they even SPELL that at 9?!?), the “safety” of abortions and the issues surrounding homophibia.
12-year-olds knowing the reasons for having an abortion (and why does this read like reasons swaying them towards having them?).
Like it or not, acknowledge it or not, this is the world that we live in. Being “in the world but not of the world” does not mean that we stay silent and let it take the BLESSINGS that God has given us and turn them into a curse. Sex is one of those blessings. It does not mean that we continue to, due to our own pride, fear and ignorance, let the Enemy steal, kill and destroy any more lives due to lust trying to overtake the power of love.
When Christ was on the earth, he stated, “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:3) You do see what the Enemy is doing, right? He’s not nearly as concerned about us as he is about them. HE KNOWS HOW VALUABLE THEY ARE TO GOD.
And so, this is my PSA plea to any adult reading this because whether you are a parent or not, you are influencing, which means affecting, the life of some child, SOMEWHERE. Influence them for the better. Find out what they are learning in schools. Talk to your church leadership about having some form of a purity class available. ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS HONESTLY (some of you KNOW you were not virgins when you got married…a lot of children are living out their parents’ generational bloodlines issues…put your pride down and get real with your children!). Yes, the media is having a field day with music, movies and television, but if you are not addressing sex from a GODLY PERSPECTIVE (which is more than just telling them “Don’t fornicate.” WHY should they not fornicate?!?), you are not helping the issue…you are actually adding to it. Sexual misuse is speaking so loudly because, in many ways, sacred sex is remaining silent.
My mom said a couple of days ago, “When you were a little girl, you still had to drive on the other side of town and be of a certain age to get to porn. I don’t know what I’d do if you were a baby now.”
God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. He obviously knew my mom would’ve darn near had a heart attack with all the sex that’s available today (Good lookin’ out, God). But we’re here with children in our lives NOW. He believes that we can handle it. You know, when the scriptures say, “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble,
whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are
lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and
if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8), I believe healthy sex falls into this category. The moment a child comes out of the womb, we determine if they are a boy or girl based on their gentalia. Our sexuality isn’t ALL of who we are, but it is a PART of who we are.
Please teach your children about God’s intention for sex. If you don’t, please believe someone will…and is.
…and what they’re teaching ain’t good. It’s ignorance.