For SO MANY REASONS, I have not watched the any of the Flavor of Love seasons of VH-1 consecutively, but I have seen some episodes and being that Flav “claims” that there will not be any other installments of the program, I did watch the Flavor of Love 3 reunion last night.  And, while I normally wouldn’t use a reality show that encourages women to degrade themselves whether its for love or press, there was a GREAT LESSON that he taught, not just the women he bumped and grinded on for (I think it was) six weeks, but those of us who rolled our eyes at them, too. (Oh, don’t act like you ain’t watched an episode before!)

As he put it, after “going through 65 women”, the lady that he actually chose and proposed to was not one of the casted “Coke bottle chicks”, but the mother of his seventh son, whose name is, ironically, Karma. (That alone could cause someone to rethink their foolishness, I’m sure.)

Here are just a few quotes from him as it related to the show and his decision:

At what point did you realize that this was what you wanted?

Flav: Honestly, I kinda realized it around Flavor of Love 2, but we had to get past Flavor of Love 3. You know what I’m sayin’ and the whole 9? Definitely, man. This [gestures to Liz] is something to realize here.

So you got nothing out of Flavor of Love 3?

Flav: It took me to do this show to really, really realize yes, I’m right and I’m gonna stick with my son and his mom.

So it was worth doing to give you that confirmation?

Flav: Definitely so. None of the girls, out of all 65, had qualities like Liz.

Can you talk about her qualities?

Flav: She’s a very, very good mom at home. She’s a
very wonderful person and she’s been hanging in there with me. I love
her so much for that. I think right now she deserves the best and the
best is me.

Has it been hard, Liz?

Liz: Very. It’s hard seeing someone you love on TV looking for love, especially when I knew that he had love. I was the one.

Have you watched the show?

Liz: I’ve watched some of the shows, but it’s real tough. You never want to see someone you love on TV with other women.

I know that this qualifies as a happy ending, but is there any sense of sadness about Flavor of Love being over? It’s a show that millions of people love.

Flav: No. People really thought that Flav couldn’t find love. That’s not true, because I had love all along.

Now, I know it would be really easy to want to “judge” the journey of Flav, his chicks and perhaps even Liz; however I don’t know about you, but I have “competed” for men before.  Maybe not on television, maybe not for fame, but I have definitely allowed myself to be very unnecessarily pimped for a few moments of time/attention/sex/whatever only to end up with nothing.  Perhaps this is what the Word means when it says, “For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God” (I Corinthians 3:19) and that “You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men” (I Corinthians 7:23). 

Sadly, because of all of the distractions of the flesh, I think many of us have forgotten that GOD IS A SPIRIT and since we, male and female, are made in his image (Genesis 1:26-27), a part of us are spirits, too and so we should not be so consumed with (ladies) how big our breasts are, how long our hair is, what are “skills” are like just so that we can impress/hold on to the attention of someone else’s flesh.  Instead, we should aim to love the way the Spirit of God created us to (I Corinthians 13); the way only a godly woman can and a godly man can discern:

“Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; but
let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the
with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and
peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very
precious in the sight of God
.”—I Peter 3:3-4 (AMP)

I don’t know what Flav’s present-day spiritual convictions are and to be honest, I have too much going on in my life when it comes to gettin’ right to let it overtake me (I Thessalonians 4:11), but I will say that if he doesn’t do one other worthwhile thing in his life, the PSA that he made last night has been good enough for me.  After 65 gals at his beck and call, in every color, shape and style you can imagine, it was a woman’s heart, a woman’s character, a woman’s inner quaility that won him over; not just for a season, but for a lifetime (prayerfully).

Take heed, my queens (I Peter 2:9):  It’s one thing to get a man (flesh is fleeting).  It’s another thing entirely to keep him (spirit is forever—Ecclesiastes 3:14).  Thanks Flav for reminding me to let the SPIRIT lead. 🙂