“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”—Hosea 4:6(NKJV)
OK, so you know how sometimes I just like to throw a question out, right? After reading some stats this week (for another piece that I was working on), I would *love* to hear from some people who beat these odds:
If you’re a female serial cohabiter—a woman who has lived with more than one partner before your first marriage—then you’re 40 percent more likely to get divorced than women who have never done so.
If you’re in a male same-sex marriage, it’s 50 percent more likely to end in divorce than a heterosexual marriage. If you’re in a female same-sex marriage, this figure soars to 167 percent.
And here’s why.
Recently, I was having a conversation with someone who was asking why Christians are so hard on “certain sexual sins” and not others. Oddly enough, it was in reference to shackin’ up and homosexuality. Personally, I’m “hard on myself” everyday (LOL) because I have said, on more than one ocassion, that I am abstinent *only because* the Bible says not to fornicate (I Corinthians 6:8-10, I Timothy 1:8-11, Hebrews 13:4) and so I’m not sure why I don’t hear more people arguing about the right to fornicate or commit adultery. As opposed to the right to partake in cohabitation and same-sex marriages.
And then I saw those stats. And they’re not from a Christian website, either.
It made me think about a conversation that I had earlier this week with one of the girls that I mentor. She’s 16, just had an abortion and already she’s back to being sexually active. Those of you who know my story know that I can certainly relate. But you know what? Another stat that I checked out this week said that 60% of teens who have a child in high school will drop out. In Tennessee, 80% of people who have abortions return for their second within a year.
I guess my point is, I wonder what would happen if, along with the Bible, more information like this was available. *Not because the Bible shouldn’t stand on its own* but because since there are people who do not revere it in such a way, perhaps they would see that the Word (John 1:1) is actually onto something when it says things like sex is for the marriage bed and children should be trained up in the way that they should go (cause yes, the girl I mentor is without a father and has a compromised relationship with her mom, to say the least-Proverbs 22:6). Cause I continue to stand amazed that the world’s wisdom really does pan out to be foolishness in comparison to God’s standards. *Just like the Bible says that it is.* (I Corinthians 3:18-20)
Yeah. Before some of y’all even start (LOL), yes, the divorce rating for “other scenarios” isn’t altogether stellar. But you know what? If you check out the rest of those stats within the link (where it says “odds”) many of them defied other biblical standards. Meaning, I’m not so sure how many divorces there would be if the husband had a relationship with God *and a job*, if the woman had a relationship with God and understood that she was created to be a help and if *both* were virgins on their wedding night. There is a formula. What would life be like if more of us applied it?
Anyway, like I said, I’m honestly just throwing it out there to hear your thoughts. I’m actually gonna not be back online until Cinco de Mayo, eh hem, May 5 (LOL) because I’m taking a lil’ royal trip. But I’m *sure* there will be comments awaiting. I’m looking forward to it.
Do people really do better when they know better?
Are people really not doing well because they really don’t know?
*Do people even want to know to do better?*
Y’all have the floor.