So…

For a large part of this year, I’ve been reading about how there are more and more lawsuits “popping up” against people who have been illegally downloading porn (even if they don’t know that they are illegally downloading porn). The plaintiffs have been getting money for this suits too; not always or necessarily because the judgment is legitimate, but because of the fact that the people watching the porn are so fearful that they will be exposed for doing it that they will pay money to have the lawsuit dropped.

Then I read an article just this morning entitled, “Porn sites stealing teens’ sexually explicit pics”. Here is how it intros:

“Thousands of sexually explicit images of children and young people posted online by them and their peers are being stolen by porn websites, an internet safety organization has warned.

A study by the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) revealed that 88 percent of self-made sexual or suggestive images and videos posted by young people, often on social networks, are taken from their original location and uploaded to other sites.

During 47 hours, over a four-week period, a total of 12,224 images and videos uploaded by children and young people were analysed and logged by the IWF.”

This all got me to thinking…

Back in my “sex ’em up days” (LOL), I had a pattern. It was having sex with other people’s boyfriends. It’s kind of a long story, but when you (meaning “me”) were molested by a family member for years, the concept of “sexual sharing” doesn’t really seem like an odd one (you have to do some healing to come to that sort of a resolve). Anyway, the *rare times* when the “relationship” would transition from the guy being with “her” and me to just me, most times, I would then find out about other “hers” (other women that “he” was having sex with besides myself). Every time this would happen, one thing that my friends would say is, “Why would you expect him to be monogamous? He was lying from the very beginning. There’s no reason for you to expect him to have any kind of integrity.”

Indeed, indeed!

And that’s what brings me to the thought that I had about porn this morning—one that honestly, I had never thought about before. Why would we expect the porn industry to *not* to do things like sue you for downloading what appears to be free porn online and then blackmail you into paying them for not telling? Why should we be surprised that they will pull *teen pictures* from social media and then post them up on their own sites without permission? What possibly gives us the impression that the porn industry can be trusted?

They don’t provide us with sex because they “care” about our sexual needs. They show us sex because it makes them money. Just like rape is not about sex but about power, honestly, porn holds a pretty close “second position” with that same resolve.

I know that a lot of people who like porn and think that it’s “harmless” probably don’t want to look at it that way, but I would be curious to see what happens if those individuals ended up having their name involved in a lawsuit or their daughter or niece’s pic is posted on one of their favorite sites.

These are only *two* examples to remind us, once again, of just how destructive and humiliating the porn industry can be.

And why would you want to be sexually involved, *on any level*, with someone you can’t trust?