If I blog for a porn ministry, there should at least be a chapter in my book on porn, right? Here we go. The excerpt from Chapter 4: Sexual Additives, Part Two: Porn …In All Forms. Thing is, and forgive me but I’m not sure if I actually mention this in the book (information overload, I guess. I write…A LOT). The last “straight up porn” that I recall watching really did give me the creeps. It was a three-way (two guys and a girl) and the chick was getting double-penetrated. Honestly, I did feel kinda bad for her. She couldn’t even fake like she was having a good time (her face looked like she was in pain). However, what really got to me is that the dudes were BOTH wearing crucifixes around their neck. I mean, not just the cross, but Christ hanging on it. It’s not like I don’t know that the Godhead is aware of all that we do. Yet, there seemed to be a really “demonic boldness” on them to wear those. And, it made me feel like I was cosigning on it. Yet, anytime we watch porn, isn’t that basically what we’re doing? Cosigning on the abuse? On the foulness? The selfishness? The destructive way that sex is marketed just to make money? In spite of how many lives it destroys? Marriages it breaks up? Hearts it breaks? Bodies it damages?
Just a thought:
Bottom line? Porn doesn’t love intimacy. It doesn’t respect the sanctity of covenant sex. It wasn’t created to bring two people closer together. It desecrates the sacredness of sex, and if you give it even a little of your self (body, mind, or spirit), it will fight until the death, with its “prize” being your soul,your relationship, your income . . . you.
I’m sure a lot of you are familiar with the story in Luke (11:17–26) that speaks of the corrupting spirit that was removed from someone and yet when it couldn’t find anyone else to torment and possess, it went back to where it came from, bringing seven other spirits with it and leaving the person worse off than he was before. When it comes to pornography and the way it influences the lives of people, I think this story about sums it up. When you engage in porn of any kind—whether it’s on DVD, on the internet, or even in books (and please believe,erotica fans, that I am getting to you before this chapter is out)—only heaven knows just how many foul spirits you are attaching to yourself.
A couple of months ago, I was talking with a female married friend of mine about married sex and how it differs in so many ways from “single sex.” Single sex can be so selfish: you have sex in your way on your terms. Single sex can be unrealistic: on so many levels the myth that ignorance (of your bad moods, bad habits, etc.) is bliss applies. And single sex is not ordained by God: “But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks” (Eph. 5:3–4 NKJV). Porn wasn’t created to bring two people closer together.
I remember chatting with a couple who at one time were in marital counseling but are now divorced. Like the wives who shared their testimonies in the previous chapter, they told me that when the Bible tells us you reap what you sow (Gal. 6:7–8), it means just that. When it comes to sexual sin, even if you have sex outside of marriage and marry the person anyway, there are still consequences to bear, some that can really throw you for a loop.
When I talked with a girlfriend about married sex after single sex, she agreed. One thing she and her husband enjoyed doing as singles was watching porn. When I asked her how it was a!ecting her married sex life now, I will never forget what she said: “Girl, sometimes it’s like we have fifteen other people in bed with us due to all of the images we have seen.” First Corinthians 7:2 says, “Because sexual sin is a danger, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.” God never wanted there to be physical
or mental orgies in the marriage bed. When God said in Hebrews 13:4 that the marriage bed is undefiled, this means the marriage bed is pure. Porn may be a lot of things, but pure is not one of them!