As I was reading some of the responses from the last blog entitled, “Be the Adult in the Room” and then after checking out Think Like a Man over the weekend and hearing in the intro about how *it used to be* a sign of manhood *for men to get married* (but now women set it out so quickly that it’s not that much of a priority anymore; matter of fact 4 out of 10 people now believe marriage is obsolete) and then after recalling an article that I read earlier this week that more men would rather have the latest iPad than be in a relationship, I thought about how women were first introduced onto the scene:

“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'”—Genesis 2:18(NKJV)

*And then* I thought about women like Deliliah, the “Proverbs 5” woman and verses like this one:

A woman who hunts a man down is more painful than death. Her heart is like a trap.Her hands are like chains. A man who pleases God will try to get away from her. But she will trap a sinner.”—Ecclesiastes 7:26(NKJV)

You know, a lot of times when women find themselves in “less than fulfilling” situations (for a great read on dating men who don’t intend on marrying you click here), they speak about how much the guy took advantage of them and yet, it amazes me how many Scriptures there are in the Bible *warning men about us*…far more than there are of *us being warned about men* and I just had to ask.

“When it comes to the current state of romantic relationships, are women helping or hurting them?”

Help: to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; cooperate effectively with; aid; assist; to save; rescue; succor; to make easier or less difficult; contribute to; facilitate; to be useful or profitable to; to refrain from; avoid (usually preceded by can or cannot)

Hurt: to cause bodily injury to; injure; to cause bodily pain to or in; to damage or decrease the efficiency of (a material object) by striking, rough use, improper care, etc.; to affect adversely; harm; to cause mental pain to; offend or grieve

Yeah, I know. It’s so easy to naturally gravitate to “Well, I’m doing *this* because he’s doing *that*”, but one of my current favorite Scriptures in the Bible is Galatians 6:5. The New Century Version puts it this way: “Each person must be responsible for himself.” I know there have been *plenty of times* when I have done *everything but* what the Bible says to do in relationships (remain pure, guard my heart, etc.) and then got mad when “Giving my everything” caused things to backfire and burn me in the process.

We’ll be building on this question throughout the week, but I figured this would be a good place to start.

Sometimes we get mad because we don’t wanna hear about the consequences that come from *not listening*.

Sound off…