I was reading an article earlier entitled, “Protecting Your Marriage” and I saw some really good tips. Such as:
Become Aware of Your Choices. A major battle is won when we stop asking what’s wrong with certain choices, and instead, ask what’s right with them. Everyday I read a small poem above my computer. This poem has become the key for affair-proofing my own marriage. ‘The choices we make everyday dictate the life we lead. To thine own self be true!’
Beware of recreating alone with a member of the opposite sex. For instance, if I like to horseback ride and my husband doesn’t, but this handsome guy will go with me, sharing something I love with another man might get to me to develop feelings I don’t want to have for him. But that is the difference between me and someone who cheats — I don’t put myself in the position to get those ‘uncomfortable’ feelings.
Don’t play the comparison game. We all make mistakes, have bad habits and annoying behaviors. When we compare a ‘new friend’ to our spouse, it’s an unfair comparison because we aren’t seeing that person in a ‘living under the same roof, taking care of kids at 3 a.m., struggling to make ends meet’ reality.
Don’t blame God for what’s really your own responsibility. It’s all too easy to blame God for making it possible for you to feel sexual attraction toward someone besides your spouse. But your responsibility is to choose to channel your desires properly. If you ask God to help you do so, He will strengthen you for the task.
Rely on God’s strength rather than your own. Realize that, as a human being in a fallen world, your best resolve and inner strength can still fail you when you need it most. Choose to rely on God’s unlimited power to help you keep your marriage strong.
With these (and other ones shared), my question is this: “Do you agree with these suggestions (why or why not)? And, what other tips do you have to add? ESPECIALLY to couples who are about to get married?“