I was reading a Q&A in the Chicago Tribune a little while ago entitled, “Porn is taking their relationship into places she doesn’t like.” The girlfriend was talking about how her boyfriend’s dirty texting exchanges have transitioned into him wanting her to send nude pictures and creating sex tapes (sex tape with a *boyfriend*? UH-UH). She also said he pressures her to do things sexually that turn her off.
Now, I have my own running motto in situations like these: “What wives do out of committment, single women do out of settling.” (Hint, hint!) But as I was reading the response, I thought about this part right here: “However, I’m always saying that sex must not become boring. So I suggest that you think about ways that would add some variety to your sex life that you find acceptable, even sexy. Then when he makes one of these suggestions, you can offer up an alternative. I bet that you’ll be able to keep both of you satisfied.”
Offer up an alternative. *Alternative*. An interesting choice of words.
So, the Question of the Week is this:
“When singles have the urge to watch porn, what should be the *alternative* options?”
(And just so that people can explore being more creative, provides ones other than praying and reading the Bible. Those should be givens.)
“When a spouse wants you to participate in watching a porn-related activity or to imitate something from a porn flick, what should be the *alternative* options as well?”
I would love to hear some of your responses because as a wise man once said, “When you remove something, you *must* replace it with something else.” Kinda reminds me of this Scripture: “When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest; and finding none, he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it swept and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first.” (Luke 11:24-26-NKJV)