While doing some cyber-researching today, I saw two things that made me think. A bit. One was a portion of a documentary that I’m sure some of you are familiar with. It’s an hour exploration of a few teens and their struggles with pornography (you can check it out here). It’s not a church film, so there’s your heads up on that.
The second was an article that I read on a site called, EveryStudent.com. It has a feature on it entitled, “Toxic Porn, Toxic Sex: A Real Look at Pornography” and it ran down nine lies that porn “tells you” to lure you in.
Yet you know what tripped me out about both? They were written to/focused on men (or boys). Yeah. One day, maybe I’ll pen a piece about the sexism within sexual addiction (LOL…yet I’m dead serious). For now, though, as I was reading through the info and checking out some of the documentary, I thought about the many “once is enough” lies that I used to tell myself. Yeah, watching porn? Once would be enough. Masturbation? Once (well, maybe 1-3 times) would be enough. Sex with a certain guy that I was sick of fantasizing about? Once would be enough.
But do you know what used to be my biggest stumbling block of all?!? After doing a bout of abstinence from those things, listening to the flesh (Galatians 5:16-17) side of me tell me that if I relapsed in any of these areas, “once would be enough”. Is it *ever?* Well, I’ll just raise my hand and say that for me it never was. I am sooooo not the “We fall down, but we get up” gal. I fall down and stay there…for awhile. Honestly? That’s a part of what I hold onto in my moments of weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9) even now. That story in the Bible about one spirit leaving and bringing seven back with them (Matthew 12:43-45)? Yeah. Trust me. *It ain’t fiction.*
Anyway, being that this is the women’s side of the site and being that finding info from women struggling in such areas wasn’t as easy to find as I would like (shout out to this clip from Crystal Renaud, though), I thought I’d pitch it out to you:
LADIES, what’s the one thing that you thought you could do once? And it would be enough?