told them, ‘You don’t get to know the time. Timing is the Father’s
business. What you’ll get is the Holy Spirit.'”—Acts 1:7

“Time makes more converts than reason.”—Thomas

the system of those sequential relations that any event has to any
other, as past, present, or future; indefinite and continuous
duration regarded as that in which events succeed one another

this “hug from God” isn’t going to be very long. I just
wanted to plant a “timing seed” into your human trinity.
Recently, I read an article (link below) on Lance Armstrong’s
perspective on why he and Sheryl Crow’s brief engagement came to an

“She wanted marriage, she wanted children; and not
that I didn’t want that, but I didn’t want that at that time because
I had just gotten out of a marriage, I’d just had kids,” he
says. “Yet, we’re up against her biological clock – that
pressure is what cracked it.”


Now, I won’t even presume to act like I know these
people. As a matter of fact, I think one of the biggest problems with
how society relates to Hollywood is that we act like we do…we speak
with so much authority on their lives when often gossip (tabloids)
and our limited and/or jaded perspectives are all that we have to go

But as a woman who likes to control things (and is getting
broken of the imbalance of that trait as we speak) and as someone who
will be 35 in a few weeks (let the clock ticking begin), I did want
to encourage the single ladies to not crack under this same kind of

While I can understand where Sheryl may have been
coming from (based on the little that I do know and have experienced
surrounding this same issue), isn’t it interesting that it’s been
three years and while, according to Lance, she couldn’t wait,
she’s…well, *still waiting*? Things were not moving at her pace and
so…lose what you have for what could be?

I don’t want that
to be my testimony. I don’t want to, as my friend, Shannon Sanders
says, “kill myself (or anything that God is developing) trying
to grow”. I wonder just how many relationships have died, not
because they weren’t great but because they were rushed. I wonder how
many relationships suffered (unnecessarily, mind you) all because
people used the word “love” forgetting that the first
biblical description of love is PATIENT. (I Corinthians 13:4) I
wonder how many women have the testimony of using ultimatums as a
last resort when it should have been steadfast prayer, instead (after
all, perfect love casts out fear, right?—I John 1:8).

how I don’t want to miss out on ANY BLESSING God has just because I
think things should move on my clock rather than within his will.
And, I don’t want you to, either.

Thing is, Sheryl ended up
adopting and while I’m sure that filled some voids, as a woman who is
all of a sudden becoming semi-anxious to have a child myself, I’m
sure she would have preferred a father to go with it. My moral to the
story? Don’t force a miracle…or force one away from you all because
you don’t like the speed/method that God uses. He knows what he’s
doing and although it can be really trying at times, the good news is
that he sent us all someone to comfort us in the meantime (thank you,
Holy Ghost!).

Yep. That’s it.

Love is patient, so wait
on God (who is love).

He knows the place and time that all
will come together.

It’s his business…his specialty.


As my mother
says, “the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong



R. Warren/2009