You know…

Sometimes, I wonder why people seem to take *the exact same kind of information* better so long as it’s *not* in the Bible.

Just a little while ago, I was reading an article entitled, “Can a Booty Call Turn Into a Healthy Relationship?” on PsychologyToday.com and the conclusion that the author came to was this:

“The artificially-created unions that are more likely to survive are those that  fall back on the patriarchal notion of separate spheres for each partner working toward perpetuation of the relationship. Otherwise there is little to keep the couple together once the original purpose gets old and stale. Because the modern ‘Friends With Benefits’ relationship is based on no strings attached, when one partner wants more than the other, we agree with Wendy: it’s time to end it.”

And honestly, how is what this man said *any different* from what this Word does:

“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one.’ Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never ‘become one.’ There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for ‘becoming one’ with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.”—I Corinthians 6:16-20(Message)

Yeah…something *definitely* doesn’t add up, but that’s not the main point of today’s blog.

When I think back on my past booty calls (and girls, guys that don’t take you on dates, call at the most random of hours, don’t introduce you to their friends or family, never spend a dime on you and don’t want to discuss where the relationship is headed *but still want to have sex *, that would classify as a “booty call”), from what I remember, I think one of the biggest problems (um, aside from the fact that I shouldn’t have been having them in the first place) is that sex was the foundation and it’s a shaky one, so once you try and build on that, things basically fall apart. I mean, you didn’t take the time to see if you really liked each other, if you had anything in common, if you could communicate without touching each other and so…what should you expect?

WHY WOULD SOMEONE THINK THAT SEX CAN CREATE A RELATIONSHIP OR THAT JUST BECAUSE A GUY IS INTO YOU…THAT IT MEANS THAT HE’S…UM…*INTO YOU*.

But of course, I’m sure there’s someone out there who will try and contradict this theory. If you personally can attest to the fact that you’ve had a booty call and it went well, I’d love to hear about it (the relationship and not the sex, please). Oh, and if you’re no longer with the person, it doesn’t count because you’re still kinda proving my point.

And for everyone else, why do you think, even in spite of what the Word and man’s wisdom states, that girls keep subjecting themselves to situations whether they’re wanted for their bodies rather than their brains? Are they desperate? Delusional? In denial? Or could it be that they start off thinking that they can roll with “the arrangement” until their emotions run them over? Oh, and if a girl were to write on here that she is in a booty call situation and she’s hoping it will turn into something more, what would be your advice to her?

Sound off…