Pure Eyes: A Men’s Guide to Sexual Integrity
Chapter 1 – The First Step


More than ever, we have big houses and broken homes, high incomes and low morale, secured rights and diminished civility. We excel at making a living but often fail at making a life. We celebrate our prosperity but yearn for a purpose. We cherish our freedoms but long for connection. In an age of plenty, we feel spiritual hunger.
                                                                                                                                                  David G. Myers, The American Paradox:
                                                                                                                                                  Spiritual Hunger in an Age of Plenty

Alex had a problem, but it wasn’t clear to him until his girlfriend of two years left him. His pornography use, as much as two hours per day, had begun to interfere with their relationship, destroying their intimacy and clouding their future.

In this day and age, stories like this are nothing new. Many men have lost their girlfriend or spouse to their pornography addiction. They’ve worn out the goodwill of the very people who vowed never to leave their side. Unfortunately, it often isn’t until men lose these loved ones—or opportunities and hopes and dreams—that they realize the extent of their problem and their need for help.

For Alex, the loss of his girlfriend was tragic. “I loved her,” he said. “She was beautiful, talented, and loving. She was the one who brought me to Christ. When I lost her, I had to open up my eyes and realize that something had to change, that I was addicted to pornography, and that only God could give me another shot at having a woman like her if I cleaned up my life and sought healing.”