If you have ever seen a porn scene you should know it’s not real. In reality the couple are often not really together. Sometimes they have only just met. She doesn’t normally let the milkman come in and then seduce them. He doesn’t really like to put his penis there. She actually doesn’t want five men inside her one after the other.
When we watch porn we are fed a lie.
We watch scenes and browse through pictures that we wish were real, that we wish we were in. We imagine ourselves with women that we could never be with in a million years.
We do this because we want it to be true.
We think we are unpopular so we imagine having sex with a woman with huge breasts and smooth skin. This makes us feel better. Or we imagine lots of men queuing up to have sex with us because it makes us feel like men fancy us.
We hate our own reality and porn seems more fun.
We go through life more and more disappointed with how things have worked out and so porn seems more and more attractive. But is it really? Instead of feeling fulfilled every time, we just feel empty. Instead of feeling more confident, we feel more withdrawn.
Why?
Is it because we just haven’t yet found the perfect scene in our head or girl to imagine being with?
Or is it because porn doesn’t actually fulfill us? Not really.
If porn is real does it make you feel like you can keep healthy relationships with the opposite sex?
If porn is real do you now feel like you have the confidence to follow your dreams?
If porn is real do you feel God closer and not further away?
If the answer to these questions is yes, you are lying.
If it’s no then congratulations, because you are being real with yourself. When you tell someone else and ask for help you are being real with someone else. Then when you work through why you look to porn for reality with someone you can trust and loves you, you are starting to be real with God.
Really what could be better than that?