It’s 3 AM. You can’t sleep. You did it again. That thing…. That thing you swore you would never do again. You can’t believe it. You really thought you were past this. You really thought you could control yourself. You got lazy. You stopped “bouncing your eyes,” you stopped taking with your accountability partner, you stopped all the safe guards. Not because you were trying to mess up, but because you THOUGHT you were over it. You thought you had moved on. You haven’t. Now you are back to square one. You are back in bed, asking God to forgive once again because you broke the promise you have made 10,000 times. This sound familiar?
We have all been here. This is a common place to be. Not because it is okay to mess up, but because often times as Christians we look at sexual sin as being something we can just “cure.” This is not the truth. There is no magical moment when sexual sin is just GONE FOREVER. Sorry. That would be nice though. It would be nice if there were a 12 -step process that just made us “better.”
The truth is there is no once and for all answer. There is only work to be done. What I mean by that is, sexual purity is not for the lazy. Sexual purity takes work and dedication. Sometimes that dedication means getting back on the horse when we fall off. It means ALWAYS working with your accountability partner. I have had accountability in my life for years now, and I must say, at times it is the only thing that keeps me going. But it is ALWAYS there to keep me in line.
Sexual purity takes constant prayer. I don’t mean that in Christianese, I mean that in saying, without relying on Christ, life gets tough. Not just with purity but in everything. Rely on Him, talk to Him, His grace is here for us all.
My point here is that this takes work. I get literally hundreds of e -mails of people asking how can they stop looking at porn? How can they stop masturbating? When I tell them the truth, that there is no magic answer. That there is real work to be done, that it will not be easy, they seem kind of stunned. That since we have a ministry for this problem that we must have found the solution to a problem that has been around since the beginning of time. That simply is not true. We have only one answer and that is: Christ Jesus loves you and His grace is given unto you freely. The rest of what we have are suggestions. Things to get you on the road to recovery. You must take them and put the time and sweat into it.
The road is hard, it takes work. That is the truth. But I am here to tell you it is possible. I am living proof that accountability and relying on Jesus Christ works. It is possible. You can beat this. You will prevail. You are worth more than the lie that is on the screen in front of you.
Grace and peace from Christ our Lord,