When your purity is more about God than waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right, you’re more concerned about experiencing intimacy with your Creator than with your future spouse. Even though you have this immense desire to have that marital intimacy, you find that your relationship with Jesus and your intimacy with God are far more valuable and sufficient for you – so much so that if you were to never have that physical relationship with a spouse, it would still be enough. And you’d still be satisfied.
The pure in heart should count themselves as blessed, because their reward is SEEING GOD, not a future spouse. We should seek Him and grope for Him, reach to Him, find Him; for it’s IN HIM (key phrase, IN HIM) that we live and move and have our being.
Our true intimacy is sufficient IN HIM. I want to be pure because I want to SEE GOD. I seek HIM. I grab for HIM. I reach for HIM. I find HIM. It’s IN HIM that I live and move and have my being.
Indeed, you don’t wait for “the one,” but live having already found THE ONE.
Growing up, I set this high standard of saving everything for my future wife. I wanted to save my virginity for my wedding night. In fact, I wanted to save my very first kiss for my wedding day. And even, believe it or not, I wanted to save my eyes from ever looking at porn so that she could have everything.
And on September 1, 2012, I married the love of my life Heidi. I had the honor of being given her virginity on that wedding night. And I had the privilege of giving her mine. I had the utmost honor of experiencing her very first kiss on that wedding altar. And I had the privilege of giving her mine. And she got a man who has never mingled with porn. It was the most beautiful day of my life!
But what kept me (and her as well) unwavering in our purity all of those years of peer pressure and opportunities to compromise? It wasn’t in our waiting for the right person… but knowing full well that God was already the right Person.
As much as I desired a pure wife and keeping myself pure, I wanted to see God first and foremost. I knew that in Him I ultimately lived and moved and have my being. And no matter how perfect my wife would be, she could never replace that.
8 Blessed are the pure in heart, FOR THEY SHALL SEE GOD.
27 They should seek the Lord, in the hope that they might grope for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each one of us;
28 for in Him we live and move and have our being, as also some of your own poets have said, ‘For we are also His offspring.’